3 Ways To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

3 Ways To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

“Let’s keep in touch,” she said breezily, as the evening ended. And I thought to myself that could get expensive for me, what with the therapy bills and all.

Been there? Ready to stop comparing yourself to others? Here are three things to keep in mind:


Comparison is such a nasty business. A complete stranger could stir up a hornet’s nest in me, just by being impertinently flawless and sitting next to me with good perfume.

In the wisdom tradition of A Course in Miracles, it says, “Love makes no comparisons.”

It says this, not because that’s a nice thing to do, but because comparison is impossible.

We don’t know the journey someone else is on. We don’t know the journey we’re on.  We don’t know the miracles that are right in front of us, when we choose to enter our current lives with no regrets and no holding back.


“I should have done more with my life by now,” is a comment I often hear from clients.

They are filled with comparisons, regrets and wisps of dreams that tempt and sting them. They come home from work barren and restless. They have survived on autopilot and “survival” costs them peace of mind. They want sweeter days. They yearn for accomplishments that reverberate in their soul. But here’s the real secret. 

They don’t regret their past. They regret their present.

You only regret the past when you’re not in love with the moment before you.

Change this moment, and you change how you feel about everything. You can’t be in the wrong life….if you’re in an enchanted moment. Comparison will cost you enchantment.


When I strain to see my neighbor’s garden, I’ve taken my eyes off my own. “My God, look at the size of those roses,” I despair, while my patch of land withers with neglect. Nothing grows without attention and love. Likewise, nothing remains the same when offered love and attention.

Want to stop comparing yourself to others and finally live a life of no regrets, no matter what choices you’ve made in the past? Make these choices right now.

Keep your eyes on your own roses and tend them with every thing you have.

Plunge into accepting and blessing your own unique circumstances.

Take a small step, a big step, a holy step in the direction that calls you right now.

Trust that you are not alone and that you will have what you absolutely need.

Diving into this moment with integrity answers everything. There is no past or future. There are no other choices.

It doesn’t matter what anyone else has. You have this unbelievable moment.


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