"...The form our faith takes is less important than the love it imparts....The bedrock of spirituality is to learn about love."
--Judith Orloff, M.D. Second Sight, p. 166-167
The spiritual path is a path of love. There are many people who claim to be devoted to a spiritual path, yet love seems not to be a part of their path. What are they doing that they claim is spiritual if learning about loving themselves and others is not their highest priority?
The Spiritual Path of Inner Bonding – A Path of Love
I love the quote by my colleague Judith Orloff. In a few words, she states the major problem with religions that believe that the form faith takes is more important "than the love it imparts." Dr. Orloff states what Inner Bonding is all about - learning about love.
When learning about love becomes your highest priority - more important than getting love or avoiding pain or feeling safe - you are on the spiritual path. Anything less than this means that your wounded self is in charge wanting to use spirituality as a form of control. The wounded self can get very subtle with this, convincing you that all your prayer, meditation, reading, going to seminars, or learning about metaphysical things is the spiritual path, but without learning about loving yourself and others as the motivation behind all these endeavors, they become just another form of control.
Be Honest With Yourself…
Think honestly about yourself for a moment. How often in a day do you consciously choose to learn about what is loving to yourself and others? How often does being loving and learning about what is loving govern your actions? How often are your choices with yourself and in interaction with others being consciously directed by love, rather than by trying to get love and approval, or avoid pain?
Consciously practicing Inner Bonding is a profound path to gradually, day by day, becoming more aware of your intent. We cannot choose love as our highest priority if we are not conscious that we even have a choice. Becoming conscious of choosing love as your highest priority takes a devotion to staying in Step One of Inner Bonding - staying present in your body, becoming aware of your feelings, and wanting responsibility for them. The rest of the process follows from this, but if your intent is to get love, avoid pain and avoid responsibility for your feelings, then you will not even be able to be in Step One.
Start today to be on a true spiritual path of love, with practicing Step One of Inner Bonding.