In a healthy, loving relationship, partners ask each other for what they need, and generally receive a caring response. But sometimes this can get tricky – depending on whether it is your loving adult asking, or your wounded self. This dilemma is expressed by Julie in the following question:
“How can I express to my partner that sometimes I need the time and attention he gives to other people without sounding jealous or selfish.”
While this might seem like a simple question, it has many subtle aspects to it.
Julie, the first question I would suggest you ask of yourself is, “Why do I need the time and attention that my partner gives other people?”