Staying Centered and Sane in A Crazy World

Lately many of my conversations with friends have been around just how stressed out everyone is. More than normal. Anxiety. Fear. Depression. Uncertainty. All seem to be rampant.

My theory is that we all have our “usual” mishigosh to deal with and now, with all the troubles in the world, we’re also feeling the collective angst in the field.

One of the ways I manage myself is with a simple, easy to do, and fast technique known as EFT Tapping. I suggest you give it a try, here’s a link to a free 5 minute video from my genius friend Nick Ortner.

What’s Your Love Language?

After I got married I found out there is something so much more important than being “right.” It’s being “loved.” I discovered that when I was committed to being “right,” it always meant making someone else “wrong.” As you know, feeling wrong does not go well with feeling loved.

So many of us like to assume a rigid stance and “dig in our heels” to fight for our point of view and prove how “right” we are — often about some pretty stupid stuff. The cost of needing to be right is hurting, harassing or humiliating the ones we claim to love the most.

I have finally learned to manage my mind and my mouth. Most of the time it’s not necessary to “correct” anyone on what I think is right or wrong unless it’s really pertinent to someone’s wellbeing. Now, when I am smart enough to “catch” myself and I am about to blurt out something in order to be “right,” I slap some imaginary masking tape over my mouth and choose love instead.

How MUCH do you CRAVE That Desire?

I’m not very compliant when it comes to things I SHOULD do.

Things like taking ALL of my vitamins everyday.

Or, cutting back on carbs to reduce the chances of full-fledged diabetes and dementia (not to mention belly fat) or sleeping with my night-guard to stop grinding my teeth and getting middle of the night headaches.

Just “knowing” these things are good for me have never been enough of a reason to do them.

A part of me screams, “I don’t want to” and “you can’t make me.”

BUT……eventually, I get a good enough reason to become compliant.

I now take my vitamins (in spite of hating to swallow so many pills) because my new story is that “I do it for Brian” so he can have a healthy wife on the planet.

A faster Way to Manifest Your Desires

Like most people, I want what I want, when I want it and I want it now.

And the word “want” is a surefire way not to get it.

Huh?

Wanting implies that something is missing. It implies lack. And when you are in the state of wanting, all the Universe can give you is more of the feeling of “wanting.”

It’s a cycle of doom most times.

Now, when you have a deep desire for something and that desire is rooted in knowing and trusting that what you have asked for IS already yours, well, that’s when the magic can and does happen.

However, understanding this intellectually doesn’t make it so.

The Law of Attraction is slippery stuff as I found out when I began practicing it.

Don’t Fall for the BS about this!

There is an axiom that’s been circulating in the personal development world for years now that says we are the average of the 5 people we spend the most time with (attributed to Jim Rohn and others).

And I say its Bull Sh$t. (and some have a $100k a year program to make sure you meet and circulate with the “right” folks)

It’s a good way to make people paranoid.

Don’t believe that the 5 people you spend the most time with — even if they are broke, sick, negative or failing in life — that you too will soon be like them.

The purveyors of this madness claim these traits are “contagious” and if you really want to be successful you need to be hanging out with wealthy, super healthy, skinny, very successful folks. (If this were true my retirement account would be off the charts)

There is even a new “study” out that claims if you are hanging out with obese people, chances are 48% you too will become obese.