This week, a good friend of mine reminded me that the world we live in is a world of mastering lessons, not to fix the world or yourself. Interestingly enough, we all come from a place that we are going to fix this and fix that when in reality, it’s actually just about the lessons to be learned.
When we have expectations of fixing things, like our finances, relationships, our kids, etc., we create a lot of shame, blame, guilt and judgement. These emotions just perpetuate our choice of suffering in this world. Until we choose to stop the insanity and really choose to live, really live, in the present moment.
I’ve witnessed many financial lessons over the years. If you’ve followed me for a while, you know that I always say we either work things out or act them out. We often act them out through our health or our money.
When we financially act out our emotions, it comes in various packages. I’ll share some with you:
Can you see how situations like these can trap you in a cycle of suffering, a cycle that keeps you stuck? You’re then stuck in a life that you’ve been trying so hard to avoid.
I’ve witnessed so many parents feel guilty because they worked too much, so they buy their kids things as an expression to show their love for their children, but it’s coming from the energy of feeling guilty.
These feeling we have must be felt; otherwise, the energy behind those feelings will just come back and bite you in the butt. Instead of buying those items for your child, make a tough choice in life and recognize that you’d actually like it to be different. If those kids are already grown and this is what you did, just stop buying things for the holidays that are way out of your budget or paying for all the kids to go on vacation with you when you can’t afford it.
We all know people these days that are doing things just like this because we are so afraid of just calling a spade, a spade, and make tactical changes in our lives that feed us more on a soul level.
Here are some of those tactical steps: