It's easy to forget that we are all perfect in our own design. Sometimes we muck it up with habits and choices that do not serve us.
For many people who are experiencing rapid spiritual growth, isolation may be a necessary part of the learning curve. One reason for this is that the cellular pain comes to the surface it is hard even for those who are consciously aware not to project it to those around them. Another reason for the isolation is that company can distract us from facing what we need to so we can move on.
For some it is necessary that they separate even from their families. This is mostly because the relationship they have with their families perpetuate the old patterns hurt and abuse. We are programmed since the time we are young to believe that there will always be someone who cares about us and our well-being.
During my own experience I had looked to close friends to come to my aid and they did not. These are people who had hearts of gold would give the shirt off their backs for those in need. They had been generous friends of mine for years. I knew they were following parts when they did not come to help.
At first the whole thing was really scary. At that point in my life I was no stranger to abandonment having been left behind by one of my parents and a few other people I was in close relationships with. The fact that I was completely alone during the most painful experiences of my life really hit me hard.
As the time went by, different people came through the woodwork to help. I was blown away by the generosity shown me by complete strangers. I learned to become much more resourceful. I learned to venture outside the limits of what I thought I could do for myself.
I realized then it could be my own greatest support. I had to step up and be more kind and loving and be a better friend to myself. I was able to reconnect to my spirit and the Spirits of those who are guiding me in a deeper way.
As we know, there is no human relationship that lasts forever. Even if relationships are happy, people pass away or grow in different directions. Isolation and self-reliance roots a person strongly into their own sense of self. This gives us the freedom and the ability to make life changing decisions more fearlessly. We won't be afraid to leave the nest or our own backyards.
My favorite gift that came from the experience is letting go of the fear of being alone. I will never again stay in a relationship keeping company that does not serve my happiness and well being.
I feel I will be able to leave a relationship before it gets to a point that it is toxic.
I would like to make a point to say I also believe that people need each other. I know that I need people in my life and I thoroughly enjoy the company of my friends. I'm also sure that I will be okay alone. That to me is a form of great freedom.