“Knowing your 'why' is the key to fulfillment. When you are clear about it, your intention will then be a magnet for miracles.” - Colette Baron-Reed
I recall a time in the not too distant past when I was unsettled, unfulfilled, unhappy, and just plain tired. Tired of my life the way it was. I was chasing my tail, eating my feelings (literally and metaphorically). I was living off of credit cards to make ends meet, doing odd jobs that were just that, odd and not fulfilling.
I was not only miserable, but I was desperate.
It was not what I had envisioned for myself when I graduated from college many years prior. I envisioned a life filled with direction, purpose, fulfillment, and fun.
If you had asked me what my purpose (my "why") was, I would have furrowed my forehead and said, “My purpose? What purpose?”
I didn’t have a clue what my purpose was. Not one clue. I was sure that other people had one, but somehow I must have been absent on the day when purposes were handed out.
Here’s the reality… my purpose, my "why," had been with me forever. I just didn’t see it.
I didn’t see it because I was too busy burying myself under the “should dos” and other people's expectations of me. I was stuck on a hamster wheel of uncertainty, and directionless. Going 'round and 'round until one day I broke. I just flat out broke.
Actually I didn’t break, I just broke down in the middle of the restroom of a busy restaurant. Sobbing my eyes out, feeling like a complete and total loser.
It was that day when something snapped. Not an “I’m crazy” kind of snap… more like a “wake up and smell the coffee” snap. It was that day when I woke up and started to pay attention to all the signs and signals I was being given. Signs and signals that would point me in the direction of my true North… my “why.”
I followed those signs and signals (finally!). I answered some pretty tough questions. I explored (with the help of my own coach). I dug out from all the “shoulds” and expectations, and that’s when I found it…
My “why”! My amazing, beautiful, exciting, fulfilling “WHY”!!
And with my “why” came the miracles -- the miracle of using my “why” to create my dream career; a loving, beautiful home; and finding my person (the love of my life). No more hamster wheel. No more living off of credit cards. No more feeling like a total loser.
It’s so easy for all of us to get stuck on that hamster wheel. The good news is we don’t have to stay there. We can get off that wheel with our “why.”
Are you ready to get off that wheel and prevent yourself from ever getting back on it?
If the answer is “yes,” I invite you to participate in a little challenge.
For the next 14 days, with a piece of paper or journal in hand, answer the following questions. Do not edit yourself or overthink… just write. Even if you start by writing “I don’t know the answer,” over and over until more comes up for you. Let whatever is coming up come out on the page.
Are you ready? Let the challenge and miracles begin! (Scroll down to see a nifty little graphic that you can print.)
Day 1: What are your top three values and why? (Need help discovering your values? Listen to this recording.)
Day 2: What’s your favorite thing to do on the weekend?
Day 3: What is your favorite word and why?
Day 4: What are your strengths?
Day 5: What’s your greatest asset?
Day 6: What do you want to be remembered for?
Day 7: What makes you feel most at peace or in the flow?
Day 8: What did you want to be when you grew up?
Day 9: What kinds of books or movies do you like most?
Day 10: If money and time were of no concern, what would you do?
Day 11: What three words best describe you and why?
Day 12: As a kid, what was your favorite thing to do?
Day 13: What commonalities do you find in your journal entries?
Day 14: What’s your “why”?
My deepest wish for all of us is to know and connect with our “why” on a daily basis, so fulfillment and miracles are not something we just read about or dream of, but something we actually experience.
Until next time, I’m sending you much love and light from my open heart to yours.