It's easy to forget that we are all perfect in our own design. Sometimes we muck it up with habits and choices that do not serve us.
When I first had children, they were my whole world … literally …
My life revolved around being a mother. I did the best I could with what I knew at the time, but man, as my son got older, it got tougher. I was worn out from the daily battles … but, I was a “good mom“.
I was the good mom … I did everything I thought a “good mom” was “supposed” to do. But I forgot about ME!
AND … we were both miserable
My second son arrived and on top of everything stated above, I became an even more dedicated mom. I now had 2 kids. 7 1/2 years apart. I became more controlling, more obsessed. Now the two of them were my WHOLE world. Not a healthy thing … but I just didn’t know it yet. I had no world without my identity as a mother … and we were all suffering.
I was suffering from lack of passion and purpose. I knew I was a “good mom” cuz everyone told me so, but I felt like I had lost me.
My husband was suffering by being the middle man. I wanted help from him, but only my way. If he did too much, I didn’t feel like a “good mom”. If he did too little, I resented him. He couldn’t win.
Crew, my oldest son, was suffering because he was always being controlled. I was so afraid of what might happen if I didn’t watch him every second. He had no freedom … and he needed it.
Arizona, my youngest son, was suffering from witnessing all of the fighting, arguing and tears. It certainly affected him as well.
Finally … with a HUGE AHA ... life changed – I could LOVE my kids … and LOVE myself … Do things for my kids and do things for ME. A WIN-WIN!
I hope you enjoyed the video and the images below – SDJ♥
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