You’ve finally built up the courage to make a change. You felt it was time for a shift and you’ve taken the first step; the hardest part. The wheels of life have been set in motion. Now comes the next challenge – being patient and giving yourself time.
If you’re making a substantial shift in life remember to be patient and give yourself time.
One of the most challenging aspects of making a change in life is the time and space required for implementation. Things don’t happen overnight. After you take the first step to make a change the meantime period ensues. It’s the time between making the decision and it manifesting. During this time things can seem to move unbearably slow. It’s easy to get lost in time and turn back. This is the time when most people get discouraged, give up and let go.
It’s a rebuilding process. When you tear something down, it takes time to be built back up again. There are pieces that need to be laid before the next piece can be added. You can’t start building a house with the roof; it has to be built from the ground up. And building a quality home takes even more time. As the saying goes, “Rome wasn’t built in a day.”
This is one of the most important concepts to grasp if you are at the start, or in the middle of a substantial change or a significant life shift. It will take time. There will be challenging times along the way. It’s important to keep in mind why you made the change. Write it down in your journal, post it on your bathroom mirror or carry it with you as a note. Do whatever you need to keep the challenges in perspective. Do whatever you need to keep going and not give up.
Don’t let feelings of discouragement get the best of you. Even when it seems things aren’t moving, they are. Internal and external shifts are taking place in each and every moment.
If you are currently in the transitional period of a life change remind yourself that you are rebuilding and rebuilding takes patience and time. Make this your daily motto no matter what challenges you may be going through. Give yourself permission to relax and find pleasure in the transitory process. Allow yourself the freedom to enjoy the ride.
Here are some tips to assist with navigation during this period:
This is the ideal time to get reacquainted with who you are and to evaluate what really matters to you.
If you do a comprehensive self-evaluation, you’ll pinpoint the filters that exist in your life. Filters you put in place to be liked, to fit in, to receive love, to hold everything together, to keep going and/or to make others happy. The demands of society caused you to keep adding the filters and over time they became clogged. So clogged that you may look in the mirror and not recognize the reflection you see. The person looking back at you may barely resemble who you know you are.
A transitional period is a great time to clean the filters or better yet remove them. Use this time to find who you are. Ask yourself what needs to happen for the reflection in the mirror to be in alignment with who you really are? What HAS to change? Be honest with yourself.
Next to each change or accomplishment write what it will look like when you get “there.” Ideally how will it manifest in your life? Be specific. Do you have to lose weight? How many pounds? Do you need more silent, alone time? How much? Is it a daily, weekly or monthly requirement? Are you starting a business? What will the business look like in 30 days, 3 months, 6 months, 9 months, etc…
Envision yourself once the change is made or the accomplishment is obtained. How does it feel? See it, touch it, taste it, smell it and feel it. In your mind make it real.
It doesn’t have to be grand, it can be big or small, but you have to consistently commit to it. Changes and accomplishments are processes. You won’t get there overnight, but if you consistently work at it, you will get there.
Part 1 – You have to be accountable to yourself. Transitional periods are not easy. Pursuing changes and accomplishments will take you outside your comfort zone. Old habits will get in the way. Make a pact to remain true to yourself no matter what is said, no matter what obstacles are in the way and no matter what deterrents appear. Commit to yourself and then hold yourself accountable to that commitment. There will be times you slip up or fall short but be aware of them and immediately self-correct. Don’t let yourself down. Your accountability, or lack thereof, will affect your trajectory.
Part 2 – Accountability to someone you trust. Life is not meant to be a solo affair. Enlist someone you trust as a soul friend to talk to. It’s imperative that this person feels who you really are and can see who you are being called forth to be. A good listener; support, not advice is the objective. It needs to be someone who can administer tough love when necessary; someone who can lovingly call you on your crap. You need someone who will not settle for your mediocrity.