Who are you… really? What is the ego? And can you really let go of it? In this episode, I dive deep into the subject of the ego, it’s function, what it really is, and how we go through life allowing our ego to run the show. We live our lives unconscious of the conditioning that has happened early on in our childhood without realizing that this might not really be you, it’s more the conditioned you. This powerful episode will help you observe yourself and your own conditioning in order to recognize and begin to shift and release those parts of yourself that are attached to your ego, this conditioned identity. It’s time to free yourself and find the real you!
Initially most people choose to meditate out of curiosity or to relieve psychological pain, increase pleasure, or enhance power. The goal of all these motives is to strengthen the ego. For as the ego gets more comfortable, happy, and powerful, its prison walls thicken. The ego’s motives do not allow examination of the ego itself, nor allow insight that the ego is your prison. These motives paradoxically contain the seeds of freedom, because they lead you to meditate more. Meditation makes you more calm and quiet, and in this new stillness other motives, deeper motives, arise for going further into meditation. As your meditation develops beyond the level of ego payoffs, the prison walls begin to crack.
You might think of these deeper motives in many ways:
to answer the question, “Who am I?”
to awaken cosmic consciousness
to see things just as they are
to rend the veils of illusion
to know God
to tune to the harmony of the universe
to gain more compassion
to reach a higher consciousness
to become liberated
to be born again
to know the truth which lies beyond dualism
to transcend the wheel of birth and death
to abandon desire
to be free
Overwhelm, anxiety, depression… it’s everywhere!
Are you feeling it?
Whenever you operate in the ego mind code, you experience separation… fear… anxiety… overwhelm…
These feelings (or more accurately, low vibrational ‘frequencies’) happen when the energetics of your life is out of alignment with your own personal, spiritual and energetic capacity.
When you operate in the divine mind code, you embody the best version of you and you experience happiness. When you operate in the ego mind code, you become all too familiar with these feelings of suffering.
If you want to release these low vibrational frequencies, you must break the hold that the ego mind code has in your life. Breaking this hold requires training your mind to practice new ways of thinking.
Just for fun, let’s imagine your ego mind is your new puppy. It’s name is Ego Puppy.
Everyone was born with an ego puppy.
It has already learned some terrible tricks from the rest of the litter, the untrained mother, and the mostly-absent father. When you discover Ego Puppy, you are convinced this feral creature has been roaming wild for centuries.
It is hard to believe it could have learned such obnoxious behavior in only a few months. It’s already ruining the carpet; chewing slippers, sneakers, and your most cherished items; stealing food; and regularly keeping the whole neighborhood up all night with its whining and barking.
Like the puppy Marley in the movie Marley and Me, it brings chaos and one crisis after another into your life.
How dare I write this post?!!
Who am I to think my words would be worthwhile to read?
Isn’t this, and all writing, simply an expression of my ego?
The ego gets a bad rap in Spiritual circles. It is what you must free yourself from, it is a mechanism that is focused on externals – objects or feelings, an addiction to “forms”, from our mental assessment of others to our preferences in clothing or jewelry.
It is the mental chatter in our heads, continuously accessing memories (your past), your dreams (your desired future), and, usually superficially, the Present.
Thinker and author Eckhart Tolle is especially rough on the ego:
“When people get taken over by the ego to such an extent, there is nothing else in their mind except the ego. They can no longer feel or sense their humanity - what they share with other human beings, or even with other life forms on the planet. They are so identified with concepts in their minds that other human beings become concepts as well.” ---Eckhart Tolle
The ego is the aspect of the mind that feels personal. It emanates the boundary of "me" and "I." We can observe in a newborn child that the personal sense of "me" has not yet crystallized. A newborn may be crying loudly one moment and perfectly content the next. States of mind seem to come and go without a central identity holding on to experiences.
By the age of two, toddlers start to use words like "me." "Mine" can become a favorite word in this stage. This is a sign of the ego crystallizing. The greater mind is creating a demarcation within itself, a sub-identity, which we have given a first and last name.