Have you ever thought about what or who is driving your choices?
Week after week I hear stories about:
- The people-pleaser who does everything for everyone else besides themselves
- The baby-boomer who puts their life and dreams of traveling more on hold to stay in close proximity and take care of their aging parents
- The sibling that not only financially supports their own family but also feels compelled to pick up the check when they go out with their family or give money to their brother or sister who has fallen on hard times
- The millennial who is trying to make their parents proud
- The partner who is working around the clock because their significant other has certain materialistic expectations and desires
- The creature of habit who lives on autopilot, doing the same or slightly different versions of the same thing that they did last month, year, or decade
- The person born into a certain religion or culture who feels obligated to live in accordance with expected rules or norms, even if those values are not in alignment with their truth and desires
Although the specifics may vary, the common thread that runs through all of their stories is that they are letting others or their tendency to live on automatic pilot dictate their life. They are being driven not by what is in their hearts or in their highest. Instead, they are running around like the proverbial gerbil on the wheel, putting others, organizations, and societal expectations in front of themselves. And as Lily Tomlin famously said,
Making choices based on the expectations of others or placing the needs of others over ourselves is a setup for disappointment and exhaustion. Even if you accomplish all the things that you set out to do, the accomplishments will eventually feel empty. Why? Because they aren’t being sourced by your dreams, your desires, your truth, and your wants and needs.
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