I've Been Thinking...
At the start of this year, I found myself going on an organization tear quite unlike any I’d been on before. I felt an urge to clean up and clear out. To streamline and simplify. To bring order to all areas of my life.
The feeling came from a place deep within, and it felt different than it ever had before. (Yes, I’ve organized before.) When I told a friend, she said, “Maria, that makes perfect sense. You are trying to make room and space in your life for something new.”
“Aha!” I said to myself. “That’s it. That feels right.”
It felt like my desire was about something bigger than simply organizing. It felt like it was about getting grounded and balanced. Clearing out my physical space allows me to pave way for clearing out my emotional space. It helps me see what’s right in front of me so that I can ask myself, “What do I really want in my life? What can I remove, so that I can I make room?"
The time has come to think about women’s power and not just women’s rights. When the New York Times editorial board recently split over which Democratic presidential candidate to endorse, the debate was over two women, and eventually both Elizabeth Warren and Amy Klobuchar were selected. This is a sign of our collective exhaustion with a president who expresses the most extreme and worst aspects of masculine behavior. The best hope for turning the tide is said to be the suburban women’s vote, which already showed its power in the 2018 mid-term elections.
But something much deeper is going on. Masculine behavior has run its course as the model for power. The arms race, world wars, civil conflicts, and an insane buildup of atomic bombs symbolize masculine aggression reaching some kind of apex that is also a dead end. The urge to fight and to turn competitors into enemies, nations into armed fortresses, and everyone into winners and losers won’t save a planet that needs emergency medicine.
I don’t know about you, but I am finding my usual sunny, optimistic outlook on life feels more like a big, dark cloud of doom at the moment.
With all the political unrest, the fires in Australia, daily gun shootings, general, escalating chaos in the world, and a crazy amount of family and friends with challenging illnesses to deal with, I am finding myself needing stronger than usual rose-colored glasses.
Thankfully I do have my toolkit of spiritual and emotional techniques to keep me sane (especially EFT tapping), but when I think about all that is occurring, the future looks bleak to me.
Do you believe there could be more to life than what you’ve come to expect?
By asking yourself the question, “Where am I right now?” you are really asking, “What state of mind am I in and how could I describe that using the metaphor of a physical place to represent it?”
The method I teach (first introduced in my bestselling book The Map: Finding the Magic and Meaning in the Story of Your Life) is to describe your state of mind using landscape archetypes.
“It doesn't matter how strong your opinions are. If you don't use your power for positive change, you are, indeed, part of the problem.”-Coretta Scott King
I've Been Thinking..
There was much to observe this week if one was “observing” the news.
We observed a matriarch take control of what seemed like an out-of-control family drama. She steered it in the right direction, making room not for what she wanted, but for what her grandchild and his wife wanted, and for what the future might be.
We also observed a different kind of family drama playing out among the Democrats running for president. And then, of course, there was all of the dysfunction and drama we observed playing out amongst those serving in Washington D.C.
I, for one, found myself wondering what on Earth we could do to bring the rhetoric down a notch. I wondered what we could do to ease the tension. I wondered who, or what, it will take to bring us together at the same table and make room for a new take on “we the people.”
As I reflected on all that I observed this past week, I found myself feeling relieved when I remembered that, in our hearts, we are more than just a nation of observers. We are a nation founded by revolutionaries. We are a nation made up of people who are still making revolutionary moves and upending the status quo today.
As we look ahead to Martin Luther King Jr. Day with two of his children, we here at The Sunday Paper want to shine a light on those who have observed an issue or an opportunity—either around them or inside them—and then boldly acted. We want to celebrate those who have started movements from within, as well as those who have started movements on a larger stage and are pushing to raise voices and change laws for the greater good.
I’m in Colombia on my annual trip to the Kogi and will be in Guatemala in January with a group to visit the Mayan shamans and their sacred sites. I’m struck by the magnitude of popular demonstrations in Latin America. I’m also impressed by the millions of people around the planet who are taking their grievances into the streets.
Half of the Latin American countries have experienced large-scale demonstrations – mostly peaceful – during the last few months. Protest movements also are sweeping nations as diverse as France and Iraq, Sweden and Lebanon, Iran and Hong Kong.
"On the path of greatness, everyone is invited, but only a rare few have the courage and the dedication to stay the full course."
Some Questions I Ask:
- What challenges are you going through?
- Do you ever wonder why your dreams aren’t manifesting now?
- Is it the right time for your dream?
- Is what you are trying to achieve what you really want?
- What is your motivation? What is your deepest truth?
In This Episode You Will Learn:
- A powerful reason to not force things to happen.
- The importance of daily consistency while you wait.
- The true meaning of delays happening in your life.
- 3 key reasons to exercise patience.
- The importance of recognizing the power of timing.
My writing has been described as lyrical or even whimsical. I know my words as truth; they carry an awareness of a kinder and compassionate world.
We are living in a time that allows our actions and reactions to be far reaching into our world. Humanity has documented challenges and successes of our planet throughout the ages. Our ability to be aware of current situations across the oceans has gifted us a unique knowledge and challenge. The media is sharing terrifying footage of fires, wars, and other devastating events that are portrayed as out of control. It might appear like humanity is being brought to our collective knees….
I choose to look at this moment in history as an opportunity to gain a higher perspective of our options. We can unite, bring light, and vibrancy to the areas where fear has trapped us. To achieve this, we need to look deeper into every image. For example, we see animals fleeing the fires in Australia. This has triggered emotions for many of us. Seeing the animals loosing lives to an out of control fire stirs up grief, fear and sadness.
Wishing you a Healthy, Happy and Harmonious New Year!
What can we look forward to in the new year? We must recognize that we are truly engaged in a planetary turning point. In the same way that it’s hard to see the forest when you are lost among all the trees, it’s hard to see humanity’s evolution when we are surrounded by so many crises. The confusion may lie in the fact that this is one of those rare cases where the “bad news” is actually the “good news.”
Many people start off the New Year with resolutions – but I’d like to help you (and I include myself) in stating that beside making resolutions this year – I think it’s so important to try and become more aware of the idea that ‘life follows thought’.
To put it simply … YOU are what you think. Most people don’t realize how powerful thoughts are and how each thought has its own unique energy signature. You’re a magnetic energy being – so that when you have a thought – it’s immediately lodged in your magnetic field, which is more commonly known as your aura.
When that thought remains in this field for any length of time, it often radiates out to be absorbed into the Universe. It’s easy to imagine what’s likely to happen to someone who constantly fears certain things will happen in their life. They’re consciously thinking about it, dwelling on it, obsessing on it, feeding their precious energy into it. The net result is that they end up sending that stream of fear-based thought out into the universe. It’s like they’re holding up a sign above their head with a giant arrow saying: “Hey, come to me!” So, it usually does. Then you’ll hear them say: “I knew this was going to happen!” It’s not rocket science to see that we attract what we think.
You can educate the conscious mind and yet it never, ever changes the program. If we don't own it we can't change it. Step one, own it!
You don't get habits to change just because you want them to. The subconscious mind resists change because if it changes then the habits change. You have to understand how the programs were put in the first place and then go back and do the same process. That means practice. If you want to play a musical instrument, a nice conscious idea, you have to practice.
So practice driving a car, practice playing a musical instrument, practice a relationship.
I love the new agey slang for it, "fake it till you make it."
Far too often, people are stuck waiting for future happiness rather than staying in the present moment and enjoying the moment they find themselves in.
The problem is that life doesn’t last forever, and one day these people are going to look back and realize they spent their whole lives looking forward to the future rather than enjoying the moments they were given.
If you would like to make the most of the present and enjoy every minute you are given to its fullest, consider following these tips.
We are all notes. We are all the notes of the kingdom. Each of us is able to resonate with things we would never dream could produce either such a soothing or scary resonance in us. What should be evident in this fact is that when the "sound," or manifestation, of someone else sets us off and sends us into a fit, it is not their vibration that vexes us and makes us a "victim." What really disturbs us is the internal vibrations of a few of our own unknown strings as they sound off (within us) in a natural sympathetic response to the dominating tones of the moment.
Our recurring resistance to these undesired moments, to such people and conditions as create in us this discord we mistakenly blame on them, keeps us from learning how to utilize these relationships in order to realize their true purpose for us. For instance, say there is someone at work who tends to irritate us. Our usual approach is to avoid this person, as our errant thinking tells us that being out of sight is out of mind. The only thing is, as we have all come to experience, we cannot escape the sound of our self; so if it isn't that person we dodge at work, surely someone else will come along and strike a similar chord, "making" us hear those same sorry sounds of self again.
What is the answer? To realize deeply, personally, that we cannot outrun any one of these sounds of ourselves anymore than a piano can move out from under the strings by which it plays; and, as an integral part of this new self-understanding, that we need not, must not, resist some unpleasant note of our own, or that of someone else. These notes, whatever their tone, do not define us unless we make the mistake of identifying with their sounding. The false sense of self that each such sound produces within us is just that: a temporary self that is, itself, little more than a passing effect of the blending of these sounding notes.
There are two kinds of situations that can cause confusion:
1) You might feel confused when your wounded self is in charge and you are judging yourself. This confusion is telling you that your wounded self is telling you a lie.
2) You will likely feel confused when you are with someone else who is lying to you.
Confusion Stemming From Self-Judgment
In a session with Glenn, he told me about an incident involving his wife, Diana. Diana was telling him something while the TV was on, and he couldn’t focus on what she was saying. He became confused, and in his confusion, he got annoyed with her.
As we explored his annoyance, he became aware that he was judging himself coming from a false belief: “I should always know what to do.” His wounded self decided when he was very young that he was supposed to know what to do, since he often got punished for doing things wrong. So his feeling of confusion was not okay with him.
I asked him to go inside and lovingly embrace his feeling of confusion. Immediately he said, “My little boy is giggling in delight! He likes the feeling of confusion. It opens up his sense of wonder!”
“Glenn, are you willing to take your judgment off your feeling of confusion, and instead recognize that the feeling is informational?”
“Now, go back to the situation and ask your Guidance what would be loving to your little boy in that situation with Diana?”
“I already know. I would say to Diana, ‘I can’t focus on what you are saying with the TV on. Do you mind if I turn it off?’ I can see that once I judged myself for feeling confused, I didn’t know what to do, so I got annoyed with her.”
To see takes time like to have a friend takes time.
I was born a seer. Early on, words became the brushes with which I tried to paint what I saw. In time, I learned that while art is movement through space and music is movement through time, poetry is both. And each of us is born with an inclination toward seeing or hearing. I was born a painter and sculptor in a poet’s body.
Over the years, I’ve come across several legendary crossovers in the arts: those whose vision comes in one form, while their expression comes in another. Michelangelo’s genius came from being a sculptor forced by Pope Julius to paint, forced to compress and express his gift for three dimensions into two dimensions. The result was his masterpiece, The Sistine Chapel ceiling. George Bernard Shaw was a social theorist and critic in a playwright’s body. Aldous Huxley was a philosopher in a novelist’s body. And Robert Frost was a masterful short story writer, a weaver of potent yarns, born in a rhymer’s body.
The insight here is that each needed to express what they saw through the instrument they were given. This dynamic is what gave rise to their genius. I suspect that if George Bernard Shaw had expressed his social ideas in pure social writing, their potency would have been lost.
We have all had negative thoughts in our lives. It often seems safer to give in to the negative thinking than questioning it. However, this will only rob you of happiness and cause you suffering. Listen to this short, powerful episode to learn 3 simple keys to overcome negative thinking, deal with your inner critic and be happy.
Some Questions I Ask:
- Do you ever get caught in negative thinking?
- How are you interpreting things?
- Who does the negative voice in your head belong to?Is it really yours?
- Is there a payoff for being negative?
- What can you learn from this experience?
In This Episode You Will Learn:
- The reason we gravitate towards the negative.
- The importance of dealing with your inner stuff to perceive events accurately.
- 3 keys to dealing with negative thinking.
- How being aware of your thoughts will help you stop the negative pattern.
- The key reason we choose to wallow in the negative and how to prevent it.
I suddenly knew I was looking at it from the wrong angle and I gave the cloth in my hand a quarter turn. Immediately I saw a beautiful and coherent golden pattern... In wonder, the pattern had emerged, to be seen in all its beauty by those who could learn to make the quarter turn.
The above quote is from Helen’s inner autobiography, Such Stuff as Dreams Are Made On. She begins the book with a dream in which one of her oldest friends, now gone, is asked on the other side to weave a tapestry that tells the story of her life. But as Helen looks at the cloth, it makes no sense—until she gives the cloth a quarter turn and the pattern of her friend’s life emerges plainly.
Helen then offers the quarter turn as a synonym for a paradigm shift, as a way to understand those unexpected shifts of perception that return us to the hidden wholeness, the spot of grace, the Oneness that exists beneath all subjects and conclusions. And like the fine-adjustment knob on a telescope or microscope that brings what you’re looking at into focus, the quarter turn is the skill of perception by which you can bring into focus the instrument that is you.
I've Been Thinking...
The other night, I had dinner with a new friend. We talked for hours about life, relationships, our missions, and our goals. Then, this friend said something that I had never heard before. It was a phrase that took me aback. “All of us have a superpower,” she declared. “It’s kind of like your cape.”
I had never thought of myself as having a superpower, but as I walked home that evening, the description made me smile. I went into the makeup room at TODAY the next morning and asked Edna and Gina (two talented women whom I work with) if they felt that they had a superpower. Like me, neither had ever thought of themselves in that way. Still, they were both able to easily answer the question.
“Being all in with everyone I know,” one of them said. “Forgiveness,” said the other.
For those of you who do my feelingizations to manifest your desires, you know that they all begin with a “heart lock-in,” a tool developed by The Institute of Heartmath, to get you into a state of “heart coherence (HRV).”
Essentially you are guided to move your attention from your head down to the area around your heart as you recall and re-experience feelings of love, appreciation or gratitude. You “re-member” one or all of these feelings and as you do, your heart rhythm changes into the HRV state and that is measurable.
Once you are in this HRV, heart-centered state, it is from there that you drop in your desire, for whatever it is you most want to manifest, knowing and trusting that what you have asked for is already yours. These feelingizations are available for free, click the button below!
I've Been Thinking...
At the Democratic debate last Tuesday night, the final question posed to the candidates was one about friendship.
CNN’s Anderson Cooper asked each of them to describe a friendship they’ve had with someone who has different beliefs than them. The question came in light of what I wrote about last week, which was the uproar over comedian Ellen DeGeneres sitting next to former President George W. Bush at a Dallas Cowboys game. Lots of people seemed to be upset by the debate question, but I found it revelatory in terms of how the candidates answered it and how they didn’t.
Having the question come up in a presidential debate at all tells us that there is a prevailing feeling of fear in our country. There is a fear that people don’t want to be, or are too scared to be, friends with people who have different beliefs than them.