Number 1: Take the word should out of your language. If you want to learn how to be more kind and loving and gentle, then stop using the word should. Should automatically implies guilt.
Number 2: Find the Positive. You may not like it, but you can honor the other (person, perspective) for where they are at.
Number 3: Look for the Big Picture. Ask yourself, “What is the big picture here?” When you have such energy around something negative, or somebody that’s saying something negative, it is there to teach us how to expand and love beyond what we have been.
Number 4: Find Appreciation. First see the big picture … now find some appreciation for the person. Find appreciation for their perspective.