I have always been under the belief that “self love” is selfish…this is not true! I was brought up in a family of 7 which included my parents and I tended to the younger siblings quite often as my Mom always did for everyone else but not herself. I am sure this contributed to my belief system of putting yourself first is selfish. I also was under the influence of the church that it was better to give than receive and I felt quilty when I did receive. Most of my life I would seemingly put other peoples needs before mine. I believe the resentment I have felt was because I didn’t nurture myself, but I was an expert at nurturing others. After all it is much easier to tend to others than yourself!