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How To Overcome Fear with the Miracle of Love

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Most of us are grappling with only one main issue, that is, how to stay happy. Being calm, focused and joyous, in a world which is constantly drawing us, into its chaos, is definitely a well performed feat. How to keep our mood stable, and our lives in a state of balance, is something we need to work at, constantly. Keeping our wits about us, and our brains and bodies in a state of balance, is an art we need to master. This inevitably doesn't happen on its own, we need to make it happen.

Living a life, which is aware and at a level of consciousness which is constantly evolving, is our prime duty towards our own selves. It is only by living in a state of awareness that we are conscious of our day to day stresses and we have the ability to combat them.

Stress builds up within us because we allow fear to step into the realm of our existence. With no fear, imagine the possibilities. I feel it is only the fear within us that hinders us from stepping into progress.
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How The Experts Calm Themselves Down

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One of my favorite saying is this: “if you don’t want to burn out, stop living like you are on fire!”

My fantasy is that I “glide through life,” and yet my reality is more like, OMG! Holy Shit! and I race around like the world will end if I don’t finish my To-Do list. Of course this creates tons of stress, anxiety, crazy fears that something bad is gonna happen, etc.

As I mentioned last week, my go to solution is EFT Tapping and I decided to ask my friends what they do to bring themselves back to neutral, sanity, or whatever happy place they want to be.

See if any of these solutions work for you!

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Leave the Red Zone

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Are you stressed or upset?

The Practice:
Leave the Red Zone.

Why?

There I was recently, my mind darting in different directions about projects in process, frazzled about little tasks backing up, uneasy about a tax record from 2010 we couldn’t find, feeling irritated about being irritable, hurrying to get to work, body keyed up, internal sense of pressure. Not freaked out, not running from an attacker, not suffering a grievous loss, my own troubles tiny in comparison to those of so many others – but still, the needle on my personal stress-o-meter was pegged in the Red Zone.

Then that quiet background knowing in all of us nudged me to cool down, dial back, de-frazzle, take a breath, exhale slowly, repeat, start getting a sense of center, exhale again, slow the thoughts down, pick one thought of alrightness or goodness and stay with it, exhaling worry about the future, coming into this moment, just sensations, calming, mind getting clearer, focusing on what I’ll do this day and knowing that’s all I can do, the body sense of settling down yet again sinking in to make it one bit easier to settle down the next time. Leaving the Red Zone, not all the way to Green, more like Yellow, but no longer even Orange. Whew.

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What Do You Do To Avoid The Pain Of Life?

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How do you try to avoid the painful feelings caused by others and events, and what is the result?

We all learned many way of avoiding the existential pain of life when we were growing up, because we could not manage feeling it when we were little. Now, as adults, most people continue to protect in the ways they learned, even though today, adults, we can learn to manage our core pain through Inner Bonding.

Most of our core pain comes from others being unloving to us or to themselves, disconnecting from us and from themselves. We all desire connection with those important to us, and we naturally feel these deeper painful feelings, especially when someone important to us disconnects from us with their own protections – their anger, blame, withdrawal, and so on.

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Staying Centered and Sane in A Crazy World

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Lately many of my conversations with friends have been around just how stressed out everyone is. More than normal. Anxiety. Fear. Depression. Uncertainty. All seem to be rampant.

My theory is that we all have our “usual” mishigosh to deal with and now, with all the troubles in the world, we’re also feeling the collective angst in the field.

One of the ways I manage myself is with a simple, easy to do, and fast technique known as EFT Tapping. I suggest you give it a try, here’s a link to a free 5 minute video from my genius friend Nick Ortner.

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How The Act of Comparison is Unhealthy

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Stress and Self confidence, do they relate to each other at some level. Yes of course they do. A healthy level of self confidence is very essential for a successful life. In order to stay away from the throes of stress, I would definitely recommend, a strong dose of self confidence.

It is important to one's emotional and physical health as well. Whenever we look at a person, well turned up, exuding confidence, a sudden rush of energy and admiration goes through our system.
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How Yoga and Meditation Help to Concentrate Your Mind while Working

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The 21st century is the era of development and advancements, with innovations taking place at every corner. The miraculous mind is working hard day and night to build a better future. With the increasing updates every day, our mind often sets back and becomes a victim of stress. Just like every other machine needs rest, our mind functions in a similar way, but to cope up with the competition and the dynamic life we often ignore this factor pushing down our efficiency and inviting stress.

Office today has become more stressful than ever, barely giving an employee any time for his personal work. The huge workload and decreasing deadline pressure add to the stress and anxiety. The lives won’t become any easy until we fix our minds and restore them to their natural patterns.


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Tips For Overcoming Overcommitment & Overwhelm

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Do you get anxious thinking about your “to-do” list?

Do you constantly wonder how you’re going to possibly get everything done?

Are you exhausted, feeling it’s your job to take care of everyone and everything?

 

The other day I was talking to a group of women. Some had high power jobs, some worked part-time, and some not at all. There were single moms, working moms, stay-at-home moms, grandmoms, and women whose children are older but are now taking care of their moms. Although their circumstances differed, one of the issues they all had in common was feeling overcommitted and overwhelmed. As they shared how they try to manage their lives, striving to find a sense of calm while juggling their obligations, tasks, and to-do lists, it became apparent that their tendency to multi-task was not only the source of their exhaustion but also a form self-sabotage. They all agreed that something needed to shift but questioned how. Below are three tips for overcoming overcommitment and overwhelm.

 

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How To Keep A Stress Free Environment For Personal Success

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We all realize that stress is affecting everyone at all ages and stages of their lives. It is a known fact that a growing child, even in his mother's womb, can start getting affected by the stress his mother carries.

Then onwards, once the baby takes birth, the influx of his environment and all the messages he seems to get from around him,  the vibration and the energies that he is facing,  they all have an extreme influence on his personal stress levels. 

I have noticed that in a students life, peer pressure and environmental social structure, are the main determining factors in his personality development. 

So it is important that a student as he is growing, becomes aware on how to keep his environment stress free,  so that he can be able to perform at his ultimate levels, and can be heading towards a successful career option.

It is imperative for a student to have a stress free life. The youth of every country is responsible for the future of that nation,  which of course has a further global impact. Indirectly we can say that, the youth makes up for the fabric of the planet. 

I will address the issue from a student's perspective so that he can have an idea of how to deal with a new level of stress,  which could seem insurmountable in his new role as a college student.
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The Impact of Stress on Weight Gain

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Weight watchers better keep a close watch on their stress levels. Stress actually does seriously impact a person's weight. In today's dynamic world, where everything seems to change, from moment to moment, where CONSCIOUS evolution seems to be an ongoing process. This process itself could be a reason for stress. 

It is an uphill task for most of us to stay healthy, when we are facing stressors, but that is the real challenge. Stress surrounds us constantly,  yet we need to realize and understand,  how we can keep ourselves physically and emotionally healthy,  despite all the challenges, that the world is throwing towards us. 
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Create Your Own Magic For A Stress Free Life

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We are all happy to realize that although stress is constantly building up within, if we are consciously keeping ourselves in an awareness mode, we know that stress relief is also so much within our own hands. 

One is so often bombarded with so many alternatives in terms of stress relievers. Yet, I personally feel that for each one of us,  there is this one factor that could calm us down. It has to be something that resonates with our inner core. It is all about connecting to that one factor and moving on with clearing our own inner selves. 

CREATE YOUR OWN MAGIC

Lots of times people have this constant question, " Could you please give us one short stress relief tip" this sounds so easy,  as if it's a magic word I need to decipher for them. But honestly personally I do believe life is magical, if we allow it to be. It's up-to you to create your own magic. It is only " We" who can decide what to create, and how to create it. Making a magic potion to relieve our stress levels is our responsibility. 
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Live In The Moment And Be Stress Free

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Time and again, I write about meditation, as a great stress reliever. I believe very strongly, in the benefits of meditation, but I also want people to realize, that meditation is not only that concept which they associate only with spirituality. It is in actuality only a way of life.

Mostly people who look inward, see it only as a method of personal spiritual evolution, but i want you to see just the basic levels of evolution, in order to clear the stress levels.

Meditation is a way that will get us, short term and long term benefits. It is up to our own intelligence intake, that we choose our path.

Anything that calms the body and brain and gives us a level of slow infiltrated joy us our meditative state.

Focused breathing is really  what gives a gentle and overall change to the general stress levels. It is the best way of calming the body and the brain, in the shortest span of time. Physical touch, such as, a simple hug, is another quick strategy.
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Take Charge of Your Life

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“No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk our own path.” — Buddhaint Teresa of Calcutta

The other day, I had a conversation with a friend of mine that gave me goosebumps.

She is someone who, by all accounts, is super successful. On the outside, she looks like she has everything going in her favor, but on the inside, she has been struggling to add some order, simplicity and sanity into her life.

When you have a lot going on—when your life is charging full-speed ahead—it’s often hard to step back and figure out what you can drop, if anything. It’s tough to even think about dropping something when everything appears so great to everyone else on the outside.

My friend told me that she knew in her heart that she wanted to make a change to her life, but that she she was nervous about speaking up and actually going after it. For her, this involved having a conversation with her boss about shifting how she worked.

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Mahasati hand meditation practice for stress

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Mahasati hand meditation is a practice that can be particularly useful during times of excessive stress or emotional upheaval, or when our minds just won’t shut the f__k up no matter how much yogic breathing or how many rounds of mantras we’ve done. And yeah, I speak from experience.

I learned this practice at my most rock bottom of rock bottoms. I was at a rehab facility, three days into a seven-day stay in detox from alcohol. My body was still squeamish, my brain still racing, my hope nonexistent, and my self-loathing at an all-time high. As I lay in bed aware of the physical battle going on between withdrawal and the benzodiazepines I’d been given to help relax me and keep me from having a seizure, my thoughts raced—I’d just lost my job, my car was about to be repossessed, I had a court date and jail time awaiting me, and last but (definitely) not least, I was going to miss my brother’s wedding, the one where I was supposed to be his best man. Yeah, I was in rough shape.

Later that morning I stumbled into our group session, where a young, prayer-bead-wearing, bald-headed man announced we were going to practice meditation. Grunts and grumbles filled the room, and the corner I’d staked out as my own was no exception. I’d been meditating for several years already and knew that I was in no place mentally or emotionally to sit quietly and let my mind cause me even more trouble than it already was.

In all fairness, yes, those are often the times when meditation can be extremely beneficial. I’m all about gently and compassionately leaning into the pain and allowing it to teach us what it can, but I also believe that there are times in life when the pain is too great and it’s counterproductive to lean into it. There’s no such thing as a spiritual superhero; no trophies are awarded to those who can endure the heaviest shit, so please, honor what you can and can’t do in the moment and go from there. Only you can know for sure, so be honest with yourself.

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Deal With Stress And Let The Happiness Flow

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In today's dynamic world, stress is perhaps the most common buzzword or should I say "disease". Almost every problem, be it mental health, physical health or emotional health, is related to the stress we are experiencing, knowingly or unknowingly. 

In a very broad spectrum, if we decide to give a definition of stress, we can say

WHAT STRESS IS OUR STYLE

Stress is the body's response to changes in the environment, which is affecting our lives. In each individuals life, there is constant bevy of changes happening. Adjusting and adapting to these changes is inevitable. But this effort of adapting to changes definitely leaves us with a legacy of stress to deal with. 

We can broadly define the reasons, as to why stress overtakes our lives, but we need to also understand, that stress us a normal part of everyday life for most people. We need to also understand it's causes and challenges,  and then look for our personal way of dealing with it. 
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Obsessing over thought - Rumination

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When we start getting obsessed with our own negative thoughts and brooding over them,  when we simply can't free ourselves from our nagging and repeated thinking,  when we are trying very hard in our minds, to sort situations, we call it Rumination.

This is really a basic human tendency,  I mean obsessing over a particular thought,  but as it begins to overwhelm us, it turns into stress. 

SENSE OF POWER

On the negative side of rumination, we understand the power struggle of the human mind. It is basically a constant repetition of negative thinking patterns which take over. When you are experiencing the feeling of a situation, which you perhaps experienced a day earlier,  maybe someone said something to hurt you,  and you continue to carry that hurt in your mind constantly,  you keep repeating that thought within you and actually magnify that whole situation and that hurtful feeling so much,  that it simply overtakes your whole life.  You then start rollicking in stress. 
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From Anxiety to Personal Power: A Quantum Flip Perspective

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Heart racing; sweaty palms; shortness of breath and a knot in your stomach the size of a grapefruit. If you’ve experienced these sensations in your body, you’re most likely one of the millions who have been affected by anxiety disorder.

In our fast-paced society, anxiety affects a staggering number of adults. According to the National Institute of Mental Health, an estimated 40 million adults in the United States are affected by anxiety alone. Approximately 65% of North Americans take prescription medication daily to help offset the disorder and of those, a reported 43% take mood altering prescriptions regularly.

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How To Stop Overthinking and Find Peace (4 Keys)

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Have you ever felt so overwhelmed and stressed out?

Perhaps you were juggling so many things, handling so many responsibilities, facing an important deadline, or needing to make some important decisions.

Once you get caught up in the spiral of overthinking, it can be difficult to get out of it. You end up feeling overwhelmed from all the directions your mind is pulling you.

If you listen to those voices, they can be crippling and will rob you of your power, freedom and dreams.

You are not the voices in your head.

You are not your thoughts.

Just because your mind tells you something doesn’t mean it’s true.

To be free you must learn to develop a relationship with your mind. By recognizing … You are NOT your mind!!

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Coping with Your Angry Self

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All stress is basically arising from ignoring our emotional self.  We seem to be bombarded by information on Self love and Self care. Most of the time, we overlook this as people think Self love is synonymous with selfishness, and this in itself reflects a negative emotion. We need to understand that self love is an essential quality,  and emotional self care, is inherently needed by us. 

It is only when the awareness strikes you, that, you are neglecting a certain part of your innerself, which is leading you towards stress, you pick up on your stance, and start focusing on it,  and then start working towards alleviating it. 

SELF CARE

This in itself is about creating a plan, which you need to customize, to your own requirements, as each one's emotional requirements are different according to his own inherent needs. A self care plan for a student would obviously be different from that for a retired person. 

Assessing and reassessing certain areas in life is very essential. 
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Techniques to Stay Balanced and Feel Your Joy

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Stress is the buzzword of today's life. It seems to encompass everyone's lives, in each and every age-group and every strata of society. It is just as though people were in the throes of passion earlier, and now they are in the throes of stress. 
 
We can actually notice that many people are suffering from something we may call, a Social Anxiety Disorder, commonly termed as SAD. People suffering from this remain stressed,  most of the time. Their muscles constantly remain in tension almost always. There is a certain technique mainly used to get rid of this state called Progressive Muscle Relaxation or in short form PMR. This is one of the best techniques for anxiety reduction.  It was first introduced by the American  Physician Edmond Jacobson in the 1930's. It involves tension and relaxation in the body's major muscle groups.
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