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Living your life in a state of balance

When someone walks into my office and says"I'm stressed" I just know that there is not enough self care happening.

Of course we cannot be always controlling our circumstances,  but definitely we can control how well we are reacting to them,  dealing with them and keeping control of our lives. 

Connecting to one's inner peace, inner level of calm and strength is what is truly required of us, in order to remain stress free. Allowing the flow from within and connecting ones soul and spirit to the body is so essential. Being tired from your routine , eating poorly and feeling generally fatigued makes you vulnerable and more reactive to stress.

Resilience to stress only comes when you use the resources around you to keep your calm,  and be less reactive to maintain the balance.

Taking good care of your body,  mind and soul, is what is required and is essential. Living your life in a state of balance, is an art you need to master. This comes only when you continuously decide to take control of life, and move forward in a disciplined manner.

Getting your body in order is very important and keeping your mind and soul in a perfect connect is what we desire.

I am going to suggest a few ways to reach a level of self care.

Small Changes Make a Huge Difference

Simply having a clear plan for stress relief can help you feel empowered, shed your stress and feel more relaxed.

We normally in our day to day lives, don't actually notice the stress building up, it is only when we begin to get overwhelmed by stress does it start showing up in different ways, like a low immune system or irritability. Most of the lifestyle diseases are attributed to stress. It can also be held responsible for the minor irritants in life.

Fortunately for us we just need to realize that very small changes in lifestyle and attitude, can make a huge difference in how we approach and face the differences in our lives.

We need to have a mixture of long term and short term stress relievers, in order to reach a level of ongoing stress relief, so that stress never really overwhelms us.

Sense of Purpose

"I am successful", is a statement that many of us like to give,  because we so strongly identify with our worldly success.

A successful career, a loving family, popularity among friends, a strong social network. Is there anything more one could ask for. And yet you feel something is missing in your life. That essential spark, that feeling of "The lightness of Being"

Why is it that some kind of stress us constantly nagging at you. What could be that nagging element. Is anything missing in life, is a question many of us are asking of ourselves. The answer is "Yes" it is the feeling of having a sense of purpose, that is actually missing.

All of us, deep within ourselves, feel that need to be needed. The feeling of having a meaning to our lives is essential. A distinct sense of purpose, that you are valued because you are worth it.

This sense of purpose would essentially be the reason that gives a meaning to our existence on the planet.

The eternal question, why do we need a purpose.

Relationship Conflict that Gnaws at Our Insides and How to Resolve it

Conflict is an essential part of life. It happens to us in every situation, whether it is within us or in our external zone. We are constantly bombarded with conflicting situations. Relationship conflict is what we are going to talk about, it could be with a friend, a relative, your child or spouse.

ONGOING CONFLICT

The conflict happening in our lives could be an ongoing situation, gnawing at the inside and creating a level of stress that continuously keeps mounting. This can affect health negatively and even affect longevity.

UNRESOLVED STRESS

This type of conflict can lead to resentment and further on to more unresolved conflict.

Most of the time, people tend to suppress their anger or their conflicting feelings, they simply go along with the others, to keep peace within their sphere of life. This doesn't really help. It just keeps brewing under the surface.

UNRESOLVED FEELINGS

People have a habit of shutting down a conversation, the moment it gets heated. They feel that by simply keeping quiet, things will get resolved. But we need to realize that by suppressing feelings, it does not lead to any answers.

How to Get Stress Free Fast

Stress is something we all feel from time to time but it shouldn’t control your life.

In fact, you can take control of the stress by taking radical personal responsibility for the way you react to that stressful situation.

First of all, it’s vital to act out of integrity and silence the ego mind’s rantings, blaming everyone else for the pain and confusion.

Next, remove yourself from the situation if at all possible. Even stepping away temporarily has tremendous benefits.

How the uniqueness of your own persona impacts your stress response

We are all creatures of our own kind, unique to each experience. We react to situations according to our individual perception. We can actually say that we each one of us respond to stress in our own unique fashion.

Although most of the responses seem to have a universality about them, as basic human nature remains the same, yet I feel that our personal identity which reflects the uniqueness of our own persona also impacts our stress response in a given particular situation.

I think and feel that the most fascinating part of the human species is the individual status of each one of us. Of course in the lesser aware and lesser educated beings a commonality of thought does exist, but it is only the uniqueness of a person that truly impacts society and social norms.

Stress of student life and how to lighten the load

With exams around the corner, I have so many students and parents coming in with their stress related queries, that I feel addressing this issue, by giving a general overview of this type of a stressful situation is imperative.

Most students on a survey reported that they felt completely overwhelmed by stress. In today's fast track competitive world, they feel their stress levels are definitely exceeding their ability to cope with stress. They felt their lives completely negatively affected in terms of their sleep patterns, eating habits, and their exercising habits.

A study conducted by the American Psychological Association found that much of the college stress had it's origins in high school. Chronic stress persists and continues to travel with them to college years and leads to academic disengagement and in some cases even mental health issues.

High school students of course carry immense pressure due to trying to make career choices and other important life changing plans for their futures. The main issue they are battling of course is competition.

Step Away From The Gizmo Zone And Find Peace

We are getting into February and still thinking of the New Year in terms of rejuvenating, here I feel that the mind, body, spirit connect is essential.

Earlier for me, the evolution of the mind and soul seemed to be of the utmost importance, and my "divine love" seeking spirit, spent every iota of my breathtaking Self, in evolving at that level only. But I feel now that, as my own Consciousness and awareness changes, it is very important for me to share with my readers, the importance of improving our physical bodies.

5 Good Habits to Stay Grounded

It's time to step into February, as the concept of the newness of the year has already receded into the background and we are well entrenched into our many wayward ways which slowly start weaving their stress laden tentacles into our freshly rejuvenated spirits.

I would just love to laugh this off as a passing thought. A wave of the hand and a total ignore of a state of mind. I wish i could let such a level of comfort take over for the moment.

But we do realize that as the initial euphoria of our resolutions wears off, the chinks start appearing, and the slow rise of small stresses begins to show up, we need to start using our skills to take charge of our lives.

Of course all of us over the years have found various paths according to our temperament, of stress relief. We all develop skillfully our own innovative ways of dealing with stress.

Research has shown that the most successful way of finding stress relief, is found by people who keep their journey on the Spiritual path.

Life is a constant change, must we always change with it?

With the newness of the new year settling into our system, we are learning to become comfortable, not only within ourselves, but also with our environment and our social scenario. 

Everything around us is changing constantly, but of course it does not imply that we must change with it. If the change occurs as a part of our own level of consciousness, it is of course desirable, yet if it is only on the periphery or on the surface it becomes meaningless and actually a negative hindrance to our own level of self growth.

Stress can never completely disappear from our lives. We cannot just definitely say, Abra ca dabra, clap our hands, and the stress is gone. No, this is a constant, ever moving process. We cannot even say that it will disappear completely. Sometimes we need to strike a truce with it.

What Does This New Year Hold For You?

"I Wish" is enough of a statement. As we step into a New Year, we always have mixed feelings."I want this" "I wish I could have this" "My this year's resolutions" "My this year's activities "

Each one of us comes up with our own Wish List and our own unique ideas on what the New Year holds for us. Which direction do we choose, or do we choose at all. In today's world I feel every thinking individual does like to believe that he is giving himself a chance for the better, in every which way.

Each one of us is geared towards getting the maximum from their own lives in terms of happiness and success.

According to me, I will give my readers an insight from my own personal perspective on which direction they should take, and how to go about achieving a happy and stress free life.

How to Start The New year Stress-Free

We are all getting geared to step into the New Year. The thought of any kind of stress getting carried into the next year is really not very exciting. . I am going to suggest a few things we need to change about ourselves in order to step into a happy new year.

We do keep hearing this phrase very often, and I do believe in it, the fact that "Change is the only constant." But I also believe that the change must be positive. This of course is only in our own hands. We have to keep the focus of our minds and our thoughts running in the right direction.

EXAMINE YOUR EMOTIONS

I think its very important for us to be aware of our emotions. Negative emotions like anger, most specially disturb our equilibrium. They tend to give us acute stress in spurts, which if it turns into a habit, turns into chronic stress.