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Are you stressed or upset?

The Practice:
Leave the Red Zone.

Why?

There I was recently, my mind darting in different directions about projects in process, frazzled about little tasks backing up, uneasy about a tax record from 2010 we couldn’t find, feeling irritated about being irritable, hurrying to get to work, body keyed up, internal sense of pressure. Not freaked out, not running from an attacker, not suffering a grievous loss, my own troubles tiny in comparison to those of so many others – but still, the needle on my personal stress-o-meter was pegged in the Red Zone.

Then that quiet background knowing in all of us nudged me to cool down, dial back, de-frazzle, take a breath, exhale slowly, repeat, start getting a sense of center, exhale again, slow the thoughts down, pick one thought of alrightness or goodness and stay with it, exhaling worry about the future, coming into this moment, just sensations, calming, mind getting clearer, focusing on what I’ll do this day and knowing that’s all I can do, the body sense of settling down yet again sinking in to make it one bit easier to settle down the next time. Leaving the Red Zone, not all the way to Green, more like Yellow, but no longer even Orange. Whew.

How do you try to avoid the painful feelings caused by others and events, and what is the result?

We all learned many way of avoiding the existential pain of life when we were growing up, because we could not manage feeling it when we were little. Now, as adults, most people continue to protect in the ways they learned, even though today, adults, we can learn to manage our core pain through Inner Bonding.

Most of our core pain comes from others being unloving to us or to themselves, disconnecting from us and from themselves. We all desire connection with those important to us, and we naturally feel these deeper painful feelings, especially when someone important to us disconnects from us with their own protections – their anger, blame, withdrawal, and so on.

Lately many of my conversations with friends have been around just how stressed out everyone is. More than normal. Anxiety. Fear. Depression. Uncertainty. All seem to be rampant.

My theory is that we all have our “usual” mishigosh to deal with and now, with all the troubles in the world, we’re also feeling the collective angst in the field.

One of the ways I manage myself is with a simple, easy to do, and fast technique known as EFT Tapping. I suggest you give it a try, here’s a link to a free 5 minute video from my genius friend Nick Ortner.

Stress and Self confidence, do they relate to each other at some level. Yes of course they do. A healthy level of self confidence is very essential for a successful life. In order to stay away from the throes of stress, I would definitely recommend, a strong dose of self confidence.

It is important to one's emotional and physical health as well. Whenever we look at a person, well turned up, exuding confidence, a sudden rush of energy and admiration goes through our system.

The 21st century is the era of development and advancements, with innovations taking place at every corner. The miraculous mind is working hard day and night to build a better future. With the increasing updates every day, our mind often sets back and becomes a victim of stress. Just like every other machine needs rest, our mind functions in a similar way, but to cope up with the competition and the dynamic life we often ignore this factor pushing down our efficiency and inviting stress.

Office today has become more stressful than ever, barely giving an employee any time for his personal work. The huge workload and decreasing deadline pressure add to the stress and anxiety. The lives won’t become any easy until we fix our minds and restore them to their natural patterns.

Do you get anxious thinking about your “to-do” list?

Do you constantly wonder how you’re going to possibly get everything done?

Are you exhausted, feeling it’s your job to take care of everyone and everything?

 

The other day I was talking to a group of women. Some had high power jobs, some worked part-time, and some not at all. There were single moms, working moms, stay-at-home moms, grandmoms, and women whose children are older but are now taking care of their moms. Although their circumstances differed, one of the issues they all had in common was feeling overcommitted and overwhelmed. As they shared how they try to manage their lives, striving to find a sense of calm while juggling their obligations, tasks, and to-do lists, it became apparent that their tendency to multi-task was not only the source of their exhaustion but also a form self-sabotage. They all agreed that something needed to shift but questioned how. Below are three tips for overcoming overcommitment and overwhelm.

 

We all realize that stress is affecting everyone at all ages and stages of their lives. It is a known fact that a growing child, even in his mother's womb, can start getting affected by the stress his mother carries.

Then onwards, once the baby takes birth, the influx of his environment and all the messages he seems to get from around him,  the vibration and the energies that he is facing,  they all have an extreme influence on his personal stress levels. 

I have noticed that in a students life, peer pressure and environmental social structure, are the main determining factors in his personality development. 

So it is important that a student as he is growing, becomes aware on how to keep his environment stress free,  so that he can be able to perform at his ultimate levels, and can be heading towards a successful career option.

It is imperative for a student to have a stress free life. The youth of every country is responsible for the future of that nation,  which of course has a further global impact. Indirectly we can say that, the youth makes up for the fabric of the planet. 

I will address the issue from a student's perspective so that he can have an idea of how to deal with a new level of stress,  which could seem insurmountable in his new role as a college student.

Weight watchers better keep a close watch on their stress levels. Stress actually does seriously impact a person's weight. In today's dynamic world, where everything seems to change, from moment to moment, where CONSCIOUS evolution seems to be an ongoing process. This process itself could be a reason for stress. 

It is an uphill task for most of us to stay healthy, when we are facing stressors, but that is the real challenge. Stress surrounds us constantly,  yet we need to realize and understand,  how we can keep ourselves physically and emotionally healthy,  despite all the challenges, that the world is throwing towards us. 

We are all happy to realize that although stress is constantly building up within, if we are consciously keeping ourselves in an awareness mode, we know that stress relief is also so much within our own hands. 

One is so often bombarded with so many alternatives in terms of stress relievers. Yet, I personally feel that for each one of us,  there is this one factor that could calm us down. It has to be something that resonates with our inner core. It is all about connecting to that one factor and moving on with clearing our own inner selves. 

CREATE YOUR OWN MAGIC

Lots of times people have this constant question, " Could you please give us one short stress relief tip" this sounds so easy,  as if it's a magic word I need to decipher for them. But honestly personally I do believe life is magical, if we allow it to be. It's up-to you to create your own magic. It is only " We" who can decide what to create, and how to create it. Making a magic potion to relieve our stress levels is our responsibility. 

Time and again, I write about meditation, as a great stress reliever. I believe very strongly, in the benefits of meditation, but I also want people to realize, that meditation is not only that concept which they associate only with spirituality. It is in actuality only a way of life.

Mostly people who look inward, see it only as a method of personal spiritual evolution, but i want you to see just the basic levels of evolution, in order to clear the stress levels.

Meditation is a way that will get us, short term and long term benefits. It is up to our own intelligence intake, that we choose our path.

Anything that calms the body and brain and gives us a level of slow infiltrated joy us our meditative state.

Focused breathing is really  what gives a gentle and overall change to the general stress levels. It is the best way of calming the body and the brain, in the shortest span of time. Physical touch, such as, a simple hug, is another quick strategy.