We are beings of free will. We can choose to allow our ego wounded self to guide us, or we can choose to allow our higher guidance to guide us. An important aspect of the spiritual path is the path of healing the wounded self, so that we are able to release our ego will to our higher will.
This is a simple concept, yet doing it is one of the major challenges of our lives. This is because we have been practicing allowing our wounded, programmed mind, with all the fears and false beliefs that we have acquired over the years, to be in charge. Our programmed mind thinks it knows what to do to keep us safe. It thinks it has the knowledge to make good decisions. Yet the wounded self cannot distinguish between what is in our highest good and what hurts us, or between what is true and what is not. The mind tells us things like, "I am taking care of myself when I blame someone for my hurt feelings," or "I am taking care of myself when I reward myself with a doughnut," or "I am taking care of myself when I relax with a six-pack," or "I am taking care of myself when I yell at someone who is not doing what I want them to do," or "I am taking care of myself when I shut down and withdraw." Yet all of these behaviors are ways of trying to control others or our own feelings, rather than taking loving care of ourselves.
Until we get that our wounded self doesn't know anything about what is good and right for us, and what is not, we will continue to rely on our programmed mind to guide us. Yet the real source of truth can never come from our limited mind with all its programmed beliefs. The real source of truth exists only in our higher mind, our guidance.
Because we have been practicing being guided by our wounded self, our ego mind has come to believe that it is responsible for our wellbeing. In fact, the mind is so arrogant as to believe that it actually keeps us alive and safe. That is why the mind so often obsesses about things. It believes that "If I can just figure out the right thing to do, then I can have control over having what I want and being safe." Whether what we want is more money, more love and attention, or to avoid rejection, engulfment and failure, the mind thinks it can control getting what we want and avoiding what we don't want - if only we can figure out the right way to be.
This means releasing to Spirit what others do and how they feel about us, rather than trying to control those things. It means releasing the outcome of actions and events instead of trying to control them. It means opening to our guidance to guide us in our highest good, in each moment, instead of thinking about what we want and how to get it.
I find it helpful to consciously surrender throughout the day by saying:
The more we practice making this decision and tuning into guidance, the easier it becomes to access the truth and the loving actions. We each get to choose who we want to be in each moment. We can choose to maintain the illusion of separateness by trying to control ourselves, others, and outcomes, or we can choose oneness, by opening to learning with spirit about what is in our highest good, moment-by-moment.
Join Panache Desai each weekday morning for support in reconnecting to the wellspring of calm and peace that lives within you and that has the power to counterbalance all of the fear, panic, and uncertainty that currently engulfs the world.
Designed To Move You From Survival and Fear to Safety and Peace. Available Monday - Friday. Meditation begins at 9 AM. Access early to hear Panache's monologue - around 8:30 AM.
...on all things life, wellness, love, transformation and spirituality...
PLUS! Get your FREE Guide: 12 Mindfulness Practices to a Peaceful Mind