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One of my clients asked me the following question: “Can I attract my beloved if I’m still in the process of healing my inner pain?”
The simple answer is “Yes,” but the actual answer is more complex.
Healing is a Process
Healing is an ongoing process of learning to be less judgmental and more compassionate with yourself. Healing pain isn’t just about the past – It’s primarily about how you are currently treating yourself. For example:
As long as you continue to reject and abandon yourself, you will meet partners at your common level of self-abandonment – partners who are also rejecting and abandoning themselves.
But…This Person Might Be Your Beloved!
If both of you are open to learning to love yourselves, then your relationship has a good chance of evolving into a very loving relationship. Your old and current pain doesn’t have to be healed to meet your beloved. But…both of you need to be willing to do your own inner healing work.
The more you each learn to love yourselves rather than continue to reject and abandon yourselves, the more loving you will become with each other.
It’s not your level of pain that determines whether or not you meet your beloved – it’s your level of openness to learning how to heal old pain and take responsibility for how you might be creating your current pain.
The Crucial Aspect In Meeting Your Beloved Is Your Intent
Do you want to meet your beloved to learn to share love with each other, or to try to control getting love? When your intention is to learn to love yourself and take responsibility for your own pain and joy, you have a much better chance of meeting someone who is also on the path of healing and learning to share love.
Why? Because, as the Law of Attraction states, “Like attracts like.” This means that we attract at a common frequency. The frequency of trying to get love is low, and you will attract others who are needy, self-abandoning, and trying to get someone else to love them in order for them to feel that they are okay. The frequency of wanting to learn to love yourself and share your love with your beloved is high, so you have a much better chance of attracting someone who wants to share love rather than just get love.
I hope you see that it’s not your level of unhealed pain that determines whether or not you attract your beloved, but your level of openness to taking responsibility for your own feelings and for healing your pain.