How To Know When To End Your Relationship

Relationship is about growth.

We come together in relationship with another for our evolution and growth.

The people you attract are simply mirror manifestations in that moment in time that reflect who you are.

Relationship is really not about the duration that you stay with someone, but the degree to which you both grow, evolve, and become more authentically your true Self.

Staying in a relationship where you are both no longer growing simply because that is the thing to do based on societal standards, or because you made a commitment years ago, is not success.


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The Karma of Conscious Uncoupling

Many ask if it’s even possible to have a conscious breakup. So used to the hostile and war-like behaviors that seem to define divorce and separation, that a “loving end” is almost seen as an oxymoron.

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Divorce Because Every Day Matters…

Stories, stories, stories……this is how we play out our lives. Many times the stories we tell ourselves come from our experiences in life and the experiences of the generations before us. This week, I was reminded about how when we interface with others, especially long term relationships, whether be spouse, family or otherwise, many times we follow our conditioning as opposed to our authentic selves. Many times these stories cause us to suffer keeping us from moving forward.

I have seen countless times when a relationship is not working, and when one of the parties just makes it an option to be willing to leave, it shifts the entire relationship. You have to be WILLING to leave. Be willing to change. Be willing to invite in the new. Why? Because you will stop suffering and you will respond differently to things in life. When you are willing to walk away, it actually frees everyone involved. And, as a side note, this also shifts people financially too.

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The Gift of Co-Parenting Counseling

Divorce is difficult enough for everyone in the family - particularly the children. They are experiencing significant turmoil and desperately want their parents to get along and not fight. They need them to not fight. This will help them overall feel safe and feel as though things will be okay, even if it does not feel that way in that particular moment. The disruption that comes as a result of the divorce is difficult enough for them to work through much less the fighting. It can be too much.

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Making Orange Juice Out of Hamburger

What? Not possible? Of course it is not possible but I believe many divorces (or the end of relationships) end because people are trying to do something very similar.

Have you, or someone you know, ever been so determined to be in a relationship, you will hook-up with someone even though you have clearly seen, or experienced, some of their “red flags?” I have.

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But I AM Communicating!

Communication is the number one key to maintaining healthy relationships. Most people believe they do communicate effectively with others and especially in their intimate relationships. So why do couples break up?

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How To Heal A Broken Heart

Everyone has had their heart broken before. Sometimes it may feel like your heartache will last forever, but I’m here to tell you that simply isn’t the case.

You don’t need to try and hide or numb the sadness, anger and pain. Turn and face those emotions and trust that they are helping you grow toward an even more profound experience of love.

In this video, discover how you can:

  • Release the pain of a broken heart with the power of your own awareness…

  • Transform a broken heart into a source of deeper understanding and a catalyst for deeper love…

  • Change your perspective to view heartache as a necessary gateway to further your personal evolution...

It is the powerful transformation of heartbreak which is facilitating a greater alchemy required to move you into a vibrational place where you can really love and be loved purely and fully.

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Why You’re Still Pissed Off At Your Ex

When a relationship ends and you still feel angry, even for years after the fact, the reason isn’t the other person.

 

If there’s anger and resentment that comes up when you think or speak about your ex, it’s because you’re still holding on to the past. When you’re holding on, you’re not moving on, but you can make the choice to finally experience freedom from unresolved emotions.  

 

In this video, discover how you can…

  • Consciously let go, find forgiveness for your ex, and in turn, open to the limitless love and freedom within...

  • Release residual blame and resentment. Realize the truth of why your ex acted the way they did...

  • Become aware and anchor yourself in the opportunity for peace that the present moment holds...

Take this opportunity to resolve your anger and come to realize the peace and love that already exists within you.

 
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7 Ways That Divorce Helps You Take Charge of Your New, Amazing Life

Divorce is difficult enough for everyone in the family - particularly the children. They are experiencing significant turmoil and desperately want their parents to get along and not fight. They need them to not fight. This will help them overall feel safe and feel as though things will be okay, even if it does not feel that way in that particular moment. The disruption that comes as a result of the divorce is difficult enough for them to work through much less the fighting. It can be too much.

However, divorce can also open up new doors and another chapter in your life filled an opportunity for growth, change, and renewal. It can be a very empowering time in your life. Most people experience glimmers of hope that like a new season, provide the signs that the tide will soon turn and life will create an upswing of positivity after living through months of turmoil and uncertainty. 

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Ten Strategies for Keeping your Cool During Divorce

1. Eat Healthy: This a stressful time and it is easy to reach for unhealthy, comfort foods. I’m living proof that this isn’t a good idea. This is a time that you need to maximize your good days. If you are eating large amounts of sugar and fried foods or drinking a lot of caffeine, there is a good chance your moods will swing like a chandelier. This will guarantee less good days. And keep in mind, one day you’ll want to date again, and you will want to look your best when that day comes!

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Dating After Divorce

So you’re divorced or you’ve ended a long term relationship. When is it time to start dating again? It’s scary because there’s so much that could happen, how do you know when you’re truly ready?

The simple answer is to go within.

In this video from Panache Desai, discover how you can… 

 

●  Strengthen your relationship with yourself so that you can experience true self-love    before heading into a new relationship

● How to feel totally comfortable when the time comes to open your heart again

● Realize that you are worthy of love and the more you love yourself the more this realization will come to life

Your past relationship has so much to teach you about yourself. The time it takes to integrate everything you need to learn is different for everyone.

Discover how you can gain these profound insights with grace and awaken to the love you’ve always dreamt of.

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It’s all Cinderella’s Fault

It’s Cinderella’s fault that the divorce rate is so high! Don’t believe me???

Most women grow up with Disney’s version of a storybook romance, fueling their desire to fall in love, get married, have children and live happily ever after. As time goes on, movies like Sleepless in Seattle, Pretty Woman, The Notebook and The Holiday keep our fantasies alive. We almost have no chance; we are pumped with romance, not only in movies, but in novels, magazines and of course societal pressure to get married before we become “old maids”. 

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How To Let Go Of Resentment

How do you let go of the resentment you still feel toward your ex even though you were the one who let him/her go?

People often ask me how to let go of this sort of resentment so that they can finally be in peace and move forward.


If you don’t let go of the resentment, you risk carrying it with you into more relationships and creating more needless suffering.

In this video, discover how you can…

  • Learn from your resentment and allow yourself to come into harmony with your past relationships
  • Practice ‘Vibrational Divorce’ to become fully aware and attract deeper love into your life moving forward
  • Actively release the resentment and density with a powerful practice in Vibrational Transformation

Be supported in accessing love’s purest form and releasing any resentment you’re hanging on to from past relationships.

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5 Wrong Ways to Prove You are Right

Kari and Ron have been together for about 2 years. They recently reconciled after breaking up for a few months. Both wanted to make the relationship work and see a long-term future together. They both felt strongly that for the relationship to work, they needed therapy. When I first met them a few months ago, they admitted they are both stubborn, which they feel contributes to their inability to have effective conversations and resolve issues. The upside to being stubborn, however, is that couples continue to work on issues because they see that there is something worth fighting for. Sitting across from them, their relationship 'dance' - how they interact with one another - became crystal clear in a matter of minutes once an issue is discussed. They replicate the pattern right in front of me, offering the opportunity to help them change gears.

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Stop The Lofty Expectations: Being Realistic With Your Relationship

In her landmark book Mating in Captivity, Esther Perel shares how the history of marriage has changed the canvas of relationships. “Towards the end of the nineteenth century, the concept of romantic love brought together the concepts of marriage and passion together for the first time. Over the past fifty years, social and cultural transformations have been taking place – and now more recently at a record pace. With the advent of post war prosperity and unmatched freedom and a sense of individualism has also created a growing insecurity.” As people are told they can be whomever they want and live where they want, many people began to uproot themselves in a way that  took them away from their social support, family and ‘traditional institutions that provided order, meaning, social support and continuity.’ These same systems provided the emotional support they relied on - meaning many people, beyond their partner or spouse, provided the emotional support they needed. However, as people moved away from that, they became the party of ‘we’, creating unachievable and lofty expectations on their relationship.

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How One Woman Finally Faced Her Fears, Took Charge of Her Life, and Changed Her Direction

Beautiful, engaging, and successful are three words that come to mind when I think of Lori. On the outside, you wouldn’t think she was suffering to the degree that she is. Though, in saying that, I know it’s all too common that who we put out to the world is often a very different person than who we are on the inside - especially when we are suffering. We do this because we are afraid to show the world who we really are – mostly because of shame, feeling uncomfortable… and fear.

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8 Signs of an Unhealthy Relationship

Relationships can and often do bring out the best in people. They make us stronger (both individually and as a couple), help us feel more united and remind us that we are not alone in this big wide world. They allow us to feel good about the direction in our life. 

And it’s fair to say that when relationships start, just to be together is enough. At that moment, all of our attention and focus is on this new person in our life. If we start to notice some behaviors that might rub us the wrong way, we quickly dismiss them and brush it off. We choose to wait for more information to come to us - before we throw in the towel. That's understandable. We say, ‘give it more time.’ ‘How bad can it be?’ ‘No one is perfect!’

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From We to Me: Feel Optimistic About Your Future Despite Divorce

It’s quite common in the early days of divorce that the ideas of moving on, finding love, and feeling like yourself (or an improved version!) are almost non-existent. It feels like eternity to the reality of your life – the emotional roller coaster, the difficulty communicating with your soon-to-be ex, and trying to make your life work, but in a different way.

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How Do I Make Great Choices for Myself Rather Than Just Jumping to Fill a Void?

After divorce, there's a tendency to want to fill that void. This is an attempt to validate yourself as being a good person. Reaching outside of you for someone else isn't the answer. While it may bring a temporary level of satisfaction, it isn't going to bring you the fulfillment you are seeking in relationship.

You must allow yourself to evolve vibrationally enough to attract something greater into our lives. Pause. Take the time for self-reflection...

After divorce, there's a tendency to want to fill that void. This is an attempt to validate yourself as being a good person. Reaching outside of you for someone else isn't the answer. While it may bring a temporary level of satisfaction, it isn't going to bring you the fulfillment you are seeking in relationship.

You must allow yourself to evolve vibrationally enough to attract something greater into our lives. Pause. Take the time for self-reflection . . . 



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How Do I Find the Strength to Support My Kids as I Watch Them Struggle With Divorce?

Our children are often seen as the casualties of divorce. They're also one of the greater reasons why the majority of couples who are currently in relationship will continue to exist in a dynamic that leads to greater levels of unfulfillment.

Our children are so evolved and so empathic, that they are in some ways already aware of the relationship dynamics that you and your spouse are only now discovering.

Honesty and transparency is the necessary antidote to help them move into a place of understanding and awareness around how life is going to look now in your household. Meet them with transparency and openness.




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