In the past, I’ve talked about the power of persistence and what it takes to follow through on your goals. If you have the willpower and drive to pursue your goals NO MATTER WHAT, you can achieve anything you set your mind to.
I’d like to take that one step further by teaching you how to develop the kind of relentless persistence — so you’re able to follow through on any goal you desire.
The good news about willpower is, it’s not some inherent skill you’re born with — it’s something you learn and develop. It’s like a muscle — exercise it regularly and it grows stronger and stronger.
So how do you flex that muscle in a way that gets results and helps you achieve your goals?
The balance you create with your Higher Self and your Physical Self is what helps you to access all the information, power and resources you need, to create a joyous and happy space within. Working towards creating this balance, is what is inherently essential.
Death has been with me, getting my attention, saying nothing. So this morning, in a hotel in New York, I take a long shower, hoping the hot, anonymous stream might wash the aches from my heart and the fear from my mind. Yet once rinsed of my memory and worry, death takes off its mask and it is only life trying to get my attention one more time. But I insist, I have never taken any of this for granted. And now, from the inside, I can see the story of the Universe in the homeless man’s eye, and the kindness of time in the sun off the thunderstorm puddle, which will evaporate by noon. Like me. Like you. Now life appears as a small bird drinking from the puddle. So that’s it. All our efforts come down to one life offering itself as a drink to another before we evaporate into everything else. It makes me sad to think that you and I will vanish. But the way this works is elegant: the expending of one life till it is seamlessly absorbed in the next. And so, this morning, these thoughts hardly seem my own.
Do birds have rights? What about bees, flowers, and trees? Or whales and giraffes? Rivers and lakes? These are profound questions that tap into the very nature of life on Earth. Currently, people around the world are focused on climate change: Does it exist, and if so, is it natural or unnatural? Yet, climate change is only one aspect of the larger issue of how human beings relate to the world in general. Do we see Nature as something to be used and then discarded, or do we see it as a living presence that we are part of, the heart and soul of life on Earth?
I don’t know about you, but I am finding my usual sunny, optimistic outlook on life feels more like a big, dark cloud of doom at the moment.
With all the political unrest, the fires in Australia, daily gun shootings, general, escalating chaos in the world, and a crazy amount of family and friends with challenging illnesses to deal with, I am finding myself needing stronger than usual rose-colored glasses.
Thankfully I do have my toolkit of spiritual and emotional techniques to keep me sane (especially EFT tapping), but when I think about all that is occurring, the future looks bleak to me.
Are you ready to discover your calling? Or become a household name? Or meet the love of your life? Then rip up your scorecard, baby. Sit at the doorstep of Creative Possibility. Step into this uncorrupted moment, and allow your years, disappointments, and opinions to disappear. Call it Zen. Amnesia. Surrender. The Zone. Whatever lingo works for you. Because as a career and an inspired success coach, I know this breakthrough strategy works. It’s this: I have the willingness to allow things to work out, even if they haven’t worked out before.
Let’s face it. The eager run through open fields and meet new opportunities. The beleaguered trip on daisies. They call it “experience.”
Recently I coached Julie, a psychotherapist who had three hot new prospects call her in the past week. I felt excited for her. But I noticed Julie’s tone was as flat as my kitchen table, well, as flat as my kitchen table is, underneath a small mountain range of piles. She could have been telling me about historic weather patterns in downtown San Diego.
I am curious by nature.
In my SoulSpring post “How I Wrote Three Thousand Pages Without Trying” I described my writing process.
I write from observation, not imagination. I like to discover the obvious by asking unusual questions. I enjoy finding unique perspectives. Observing life with curiosity brings more awareness to the true nature of who I am and the world I live in. I don’t write books, I write pages or at my best, distilled wisdom condensed into a single quote. I call my writing process WISDOM PAGES.
Several years ago, I was in the middle of pondering “What is real wealth?” I could see there are plenty of people with money and material things who still live in sorrow, fear and lack. Money is seldom a remedy for lack.
While visiting one of my cousins in Green Bay, I stumbled across my favorite definition of real wealth. It was the kindness and generosity of her true nature that reflected her wealth.
Do you believe there could be more to life than what you’ve come to expect?
By asking yourself the question, “Where am I right now?” you are really asking, “What state of mind am I in and how could I describe that using the metaphor of a physical place to represent it?”
The method I teach (first introduced in my bestselling book The Map: Finding the Magic and Meaning in the Story of Your Life) is to describe your state of mind using landscape archetypes.
The recent reckless skirmish between the U.S. and Iran held a deep irony. Neither side wanted to go to war, and yet neither side could talk to each other except in terms of war. Language and action go together. If you are stuck in the metaphor of war, with its winners and losers, revenge, enmities that last for generations, and the macho image of the warrior, you can never end war even though you want to.
There is no clean end to war once you are in a war mentality. Winners in one war become losers the next, and combat runs into a quagmire in which it is obvious that neither side will be able to claim victory, war thinking keeps stubbornly drilling home the same metaphor of war. As history teaches us from World War I to Vietnam and now Afghanistan, wars are at once pointless, relentless, and endless. War heroes on one side are war criminals on the other.
“It doesn't matter how strong your opinions are. If you don't use your power for positive change, you are, indeed, part of the problem.”-Coretta Scott King
I've Been Thinking..
There was much to observe this week if one was “observing” the news.
We observed a matriarch take control of what seemed like an out-of-control family drama. She steered it in the right direction, making room not for what she wanted, but for what her grandchild and his wife wanted, and for what the future might be.
We also observed a different kind of family drama playing out among the Democrats running for president. And then, of course, there was all of the dysfunction and drama we observed playing out amongst those serving in Washington D.C.
I, for one, found myself wondering what on Earth we could do to bring the rhetoric down a notch. I wondered what we could do to ease the tension. I wondered who, or what, it will take to bring us together at the same table and make room for a new take on “we the people.”
As I reflected on all that I observed this past week, I found myself feeling relieved when I remembered that, in our hearts, we are more than just a nation of observers. We are a nation founded by revolutionaries. We are a nation made up of people who are still making revolutionary moves and upending the status quo today.
As we look ahead to Martin Luther King Jr. Day with two of his children, we here at The Sunday Paper want to shine a light on those who have observed an issue or an opportunity—either around them or inside them—and then boldly acted. We want to celebrate those who have started movements from within, as well as those who have started movements on a larger stage and are pushing to raise voices and change laws for the greater good.
Life is challenging.
Accept and make peace with that.
There will always be ups and downs. It’s the nature of being in a human experience.
Don’t pray for life to get easier.
Instead work to develop your inner strength and resilience so that you can handle the challenges that life throws your way.
Your challenges are gifts in disguise sent by the universe to strengthen your character. Your dreams chose you for a reason. And your dream will take you on a journey of having to become the person who is capable of fulfilling the vision.
It is your own endeavor that will attract you, and connect you to your personal energy field, with the infinite realm of possibilities available to you. Your own self mastery will create a major shift in your consciousness, open newer pathways for you, and open your life to newer and higher truths leading to success.
At the beginning of every year, there’s an energy that’s palpable where you feel such huge promise for newness, in every way. Yes, we all get to start again! YAY. Yoga, Pilates, promises to yourself to change your diet, let go of the old habits that messed you up the year before, start a prayer and meditation practice and quit sugar/alcohol/(fill in blank) for real this time, take some interesting classes you’ve always wanted to do. Everyone is raring to go. Success by design is inherent just in the words “new year”. The failures of yesterday can be erased on Jan 1. That is a big fat promise.
But not so fast. These are all worthy intentions but what if your old self, the one you’re trying to change is not willing to do the list in your hand. What if your old self is so invested in your identity of feeling shitty, lonely, hard done by, angry, etc. that it thinks your new ideas are just phooey and is determined to prove it to you?
“No matter how many bombs we drop, no matter how skillfully our soldiers fight, we are not responding to the ultimate challenge until we show the world how and why we must all learn to live in peace...” -Sargent Shriver
I've Been Thinking...
There was so much news this week it was almost impossible to keep up with it all.
We began with stories of retribution, revenge, and a possible war. (Thank God cooler heads seemed to have prevailed.) Then we ended with what’s being portrayed as a war inside the House of Windsor, a.k.a. the British royal family. Impeachment, climate change, a downed airplane killing all on board, and the devastating loss of Australian life and wildlife also competed for our attention.
Leave it to the queen to sum it all up for us. In a statement from Buckingham Palace, she or her aides pronounced: “It’s complicated." You think? Holy moly.
“It’s complicated” (which also happens to be one of my favorite movies) seems to perfectly sum up our politics, the Middle East, and how many families are feeling these days.
What I took away from everything this week was this: life is indeed complicated, but it can also be really simple. Like Harry and Meghan, each of us has the personal right or duty to take a moment to step back and reassess what is or isn’t working—be it in our families, our relationships, our places of work, and or our politics. Then we can each make a decision to step up and speak out, or step back and stand down.
The universe is hard to explain, because there are so many moving parts and so many levels, probably infinite in both cases. It is a cherished goal in physics to unify these parts, but so far success has eluded even the most brilliant investigators. The average person might take an occasional interest in the latest theories about the cosmos, but we think the mystery of the universe faces everyone on a daily basis, as does the solution to the mystery.
The cosmic riddle is easy to state: Is the universe whole? Do its parts all work together, and if so, how? Clearly the universe isn’t a machine, because machines are assembled from mechanical parts with visible connections like the gears in a car’s transmission. But the universe has a peculiar feature. The moving parts, meaning any physical object, whether as large as a galaxy or as tiny as an atom, depend on probabilities to show us their properties, and these suddenly vanish at the quantum level. Even large, or macroscopic, objects exhibit quantum behavior. To drive the point home, subatomic particles do not have a stable identity. They flicker in and out of one state, following invisible probability waves. The same peculiarity holds true for the other basic ingredients of what we call everyday reality: time, space, and energy. All have an invisible source beyond the physical, even though we experience them in the physical world.
I’m in Colombia on my annual trip to the Kogi and will be in Guatemala in January with a group to visit the Mayan shamans and their sacred sites. I’m struck by the magnitude of popular demonstrations in Latin America. I’m also impressed by the millions of people around the planet who are taking their grievances into the streets.
Half of the Latin American countries have experienced large-scale demonstrations – mostly peaceful – during the last few months. Protest movements also are sweeping nations as diverse as France and Iraq, Sweden and Lebanon, Iran and Hong Kong.
"On the path of greatness, everyone is invited, but only a rare few have the courage and the dedication to stay the full course."
Some Questions I Ask:
- What challenges are you going through?
- Do you ever wonder why your dreams aren’t manifesting now?
- Is it the right time for your dream?
- Is what you are trying to achieve what you really want?
- What is your motivation? What is your deepest truth?
In This Episode You Will Learn:
- A powerful reason to not force things to happen.
- The importance of daily consistency while you wait.
- The true meaning of delays happening in your life.
- 3 key reasons to exercise patience.
- The importance of recognizing the power of timing.
Smart goal setting is an absolute must for people who want to succeed. Without clear goals, you will not have a solid direction on where you’re heading in your life.
For running a business, goals can help take your business to the next level, but there are different things you have to factor in.
The following are 3 tips for goal-setting for modern entrepreneurs.
1. Set SMART Goals
Set specific and measurable goals so you’re more likely to achieve them. One of the best methods of goal-setting is setting SMART goals.
Ensure that your goals are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Time-bounded.
You have a better chance of achieving SMART goals than those that are vague, too broad, or don’t have a specific target date for completion.
If you not sure exactly how to start creating your own SMART goals, check out this complete guide to powerful goal-setting that is full of tips and real-life examples.
My writing has been described as lyrical or even whimsical. I know my words as truth; they carry an awareness of a kinder and compassionate world.
We are living in a time that allows our actions and reactions to be far reaching into our world. Humanity has documented challenges and successes of our planet throughout the ages. Our ability to be aware of current situations across the oceans has gifted us a unique knowledge and challenge. The media is sharing terrifying footage of fires, wars, and other devastating events that are portrayed as out of control. It might appear like humanity is being brought to our collective knees….
I choose to look at this moment in history as an opportunity to gain a higher perspective of our options. We can unite, bring light, and vibrancy to the areas where fear has trapped us. To achieve this, we need to look deeper into every image. For example, we see animals fleeing the fires in Australia. This has triggered emotions for many of us. Seeing the animals loosing lives to an out of control fire stirs up grief, fear and sadness.
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