Self Care to Handle Every Area of Our Life

Self care is essential in our lives for building resilience towards those stressors which we cannot eliminate. We need to live our lives to our utmost potential, so we need to take steps to care for our mind and body. 

People wrongly presume that self care is a luxury. That's why they remain generally fatigued, irritable, tired and overwhelmed most of the time. They need to understand that self care has to be a priority in their lives. It is then that they can make their lives seem worth while. 

 An American journal rightly described self care as a multidimensional and multifaceted purposeful engagement in strategies that promote healthy functioning. 

We can observe that gyming once in a while, going on an occasional diet or even playing a game sometimes, is not going to be of consequence. You need to have a sense of regularity. Building a schedule for yourself will help keep you monitored completely. 
We need to categorize the various types of self care for our own convenience so that when we look at it objectively we can know how to handle every area of our lives. 
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The Hope & Hurt: Living & Dying in Addiction

“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” ~ Rumi

Waking up in a jail cell with little to no recollection of how you got there really isn’t anyone’s idea of a good time—okay, at least it’s not most people’s idea of a good time—yet thanks to living in active addiction for many years, I’ve managed to accomplish this feat on more than a few of occasions.

Today, I have more than a couple of years in sobriety, a first in my life since the age of fifteen. This isn’t my first time in recovery, though it’s definitely been the longest and most heart-centered attempt I’ve ever made. I’ve knocked on deaths door numerous times as a result of being an addict and spent more time in detoxes, rehabs, psychiatric hospitals and jails than I care to remember.

I was actually messaging with someone from my past recently, someone I hadn’t spoken with in quite a long time as a result of addiction and other circumstances. At one point she wrote, “I used to check the obituaries for you, Chris” and I didn’t even blink an eye at that statement.

For all intents and purposes, the way I was living should have killed me ten times over and yet, for whatever reason, I’m still here, I’m still alive, something so many addicts can’t say as they’ve lost their lives to this insidious disease.

I attribute the better part of these years in recovery to something I’m grateful to have finally learned, something I’d let slip through my ears at 12 Step Meetings for far too long, so I ask you to hear me when I say; the healing process (which goes for both addicts, and non-addicts alike) is always, always an inside job.

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A Constant Process

The responsibility of keeping ourselves happy,  is totally our own.  Every individual is completely responsible for his or her own happiness. Each one of us is capable of making our dreams a reality. It is up to us to harness the forces into play for ourselves. This will require a dramatic change of behavior in the way you do things and even in your thinking process. You have to be ready for it. You need to understand that you will be doing this,  because you will have to change the fundamental essence within you. 

BRINGING IN CHANGE
People invariably reach a point in their lives,  where they feel the necessity to change,  as their lives seem to be stagnant and meaningless. They stop feeling the essential joy of "Being Alive", which is the inherent nature of every human being. We keep putting it off since change scares us. We are so comfortably settled,  in our own comfort zone, that moving away from that zone seems unnatural to us. But we need to realize that we have to do it. Sitting in the same situation will only keep generating more and more stress due to a stagnant invariable. 

How can we have a passive approach to an active expectation?
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3 Keys To Unleashing Energy and Vitality

I often get asked the question:

“Kute, how do you have so much energy?”

I teach 18 hours a day, 12 days straight, nonstop. When I teach weekend seminars, I do 32-40 hours in two and a half days.

In my opinion, you can drink all the green juice, eat the superfoods, inject yourself with IV supplements, do crazy exercise routines, all of which are great…..

But unless you have your mind, your heart, your spirit right, none of that really matters.

Why?

Your unresolved stuff will simply bring you down to that level at which you haven’t healed yet. So I found a lot of health approaches to be “Outside-In” rather than “Inside-Out.”

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Mind Body Connect

Self care needs to be positioned above all else. If we don't take adequate measures for self care, all the self relief activities we delve into, are a pretty useless excercise.

Self care has been defined in a medical journal as" a multidimensional, multifaceted process of purposeful engagement in strategies that promote healthy functioning and enhance well being." This might sound complicated, but in simple words we need to just say that Self care is extremely essential for our physical and mental well being.


MIND BODY CONNECT

When you have taken adequate steps to care for your mind and body, you are well equipped to handle the daily stressors that life seems to throw at you. The same thing which could be a stressor for one person, could be an exhilarating adventure for another. To each his own actually.
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5 Ways to Stay Healthy and Happy This Winter

The fall and winter can be a tough time to be consistent with our health regimens. When you consider the change in weather, back to school season and the holiday season that is fast approaching our health and wellness can easily take a back seat. This article will give you fun and easy tips to stay healthy and live well.

Stay Consistent (But Be Kind To Yourself)

As the weather becomes more chilly, and the wind picks up our motivation to get outside seems to disappear completely. It makes total sense, who want to go for a run when it dark and cold out? However, if you bite the bullet and go, there are huge benefits. Working out outside in cooler weather is actually easier and the risk of dehydration is less too.

Even if you only go for a walk there are a ton of health benefits like burning calories, increasing your body’s blood flow, and can help you reduce stress. If you don’t work out for some time, it’s okay. Start again as many time as you need to. It's easy to make excuses for ourselves so don’t fall into that trap or don’t for too long.

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Making Self-Care Effective

Self Care is a multifaceted process of engaging in activities that promote a healthy functioning in us and enhance our well being. Self Care is completely vital to build resilience towards stressors, which seem to be inevitable in our lives.Looking after our minds and bodies is completely essential in creating a balance, with the aspects available for living the best possible life.


SELF CARE AS A LUXURY

Many of us grow up thinking that it is essential to believe, that we need to suppress our inherent desires, and lead a strict and disciplined life in order to reach our desired goals. In true reality, this is not at all the case. We need not assume that Self Care is a luxury.

SELF CARE AS A PRIORITY

It needs to be viewed as a priority. It is essential, to keep the mind, body and spirit, completely in sync, to feel relaxed and easy, and to be able to handle life, from a positive perspective.

Most people feel overwhelmed, tired and ill equipped to handle life's challenges, as they seem to view Self Care as a luxury, and therefore deprive themselves the comfort of a balanced life.
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Is the Self the Ultimate Healer?

In recent years the self-care movement has been gathering momentum, and in many ways it is a natural extension of what came before, which was prevention. Both put the focus of remaining well on the individual. Instead of running to the doctor’s when symptoms appear, prevention taught people to avoid risks in advance. Giving up smoking to prevent the risk of lung cancer was a milestone in prevention over fifty years ago, and since then a host of preventive measures have been discovered.

But prevention focused on disease rather than wellness, which made room for self-care and its aim to attain lifelong well-being. A positive lifestyle that benefits both mind and body lies at the core of self-care, and important breakthroughs are being made, such as the vital importance of avoiding low-grade chronic inflammation and also chronic stress. Yet few realize how revolutionary self-care can actually be.

What if the self, all alone and unaided, is the ultimate healer? On the one hand modern medicine would hotly and even violently reject such a notion. Mainstream medicine still has objections to self-care insofar as it encroaches on the expertise of doctors and the accepted treatments through drugs and surgery. Let’s set aside the possible objections to the self as healer, because it’s more important to get at what the concept is all about.

An opening is provided by a first-person account on a personal website by Joey Lott, who poses what he calls “A cure for anxiety.” Lott presents himself as a longtime sufferer from anxiety whose affliction was intractable: “I failed so completely to make things better (even after years of therapy, meditation, yoga, affirmations, breathwork, prayer, hundreds of self-help books, countless workshops, and on and on) that eventually I grew hopeless. Nothing could help me, I believed. I thought I was broken.”
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A sudden surge of overwhelming anxiety and fear: PANIC ATTACK

In today's fast track world people are suffering from many facets of anxiety disorders. Loneliness is a key factor, closely followed by fear, which could further lead to depression. 

Many people chance themselves upon panic attacks due to these feelings, as being constantly inwardly drawn and tuned in without adequate outside support, leads to a condition we could name as a panic disorder. 

People who could be categorized into this, are the ones who are coping with challenging situations, nervous disorders, fear based problems and a  general state of uneasiness. 

Most people are trying in their own variant ways,  to deal with these emotions: 

MALADAPTIVE TECHNIQUES

These are the practices followed to cope with the emotional  anxiety challenges. Most of these methods are incorrect.They will only make the emotions go away temporarily. On the other hand may even lead to enhanced anxiety, and may have a negative effect in the long run. 
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Allow yourself the luxury of extreme Self Care

Many of us take the business of living life very seriously. We are very aware of our responsibilities, and in the process, one fine day, we sort of mentally wake up, to realize and understand, that we have forgotten, to take care of our personal needs. We have forgotten, who we are. That whole persona of ours, has been, by our own free will "brushed under the carpet " as we did not want to handle it, when it surfaced. We think we will handle it, as and when required. 

We do not realize, that those are the issues, which have allowed stress to seep into our being, stealthily. 

IMPORTANCE OF SELF CARE
We realize suddenly that we are feeling tired on every level. Mentally, emotionally and physically It's only when we wake up to this awareness, depleted in this manner, with a level of exhaustion on a physical and emotional plane, we realize that that we are incapable of handling stress 

We then understand that any form of Self care, like a massage, or a hot soak in the bathtub, or any activity that revitalizes us on a mind body level is essential for our extreme well being. 

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Your Body Wants to Be Your Strongest Ally - Let It

Modern medicine has triumphed on many fronts in conquering diseases and extending life, but its greatest advance is almost totally unsung. Health and longevity have made it possible to see the body as our greatest ally. After centuries of inevitable sickness and early death for the vast majority of people, the human body is poised to become our greatest ally on a new front: consciousness.

If you can step outside the accepted image of your body as a machine, you will discover that it is actually not a separate physical object but united with your mind as one consciousness—call it the bodymind. This step alone rids you of many damaging attitudes. As a thing separate from ourselves, the body is an obsessive source of worry over sickness, aging, and death. Equally obsessive is whether someone’s body is beautiful enough, strong enough, appealing enough to the opposite sex.

Our Personal Wellness Is Reflected In Our World

In the past week I have shared many conversations with people who are seeking advice on how to live life with peace and wellness.  Too many people are experiencing anxiety, chronic illness and general poor health.

A couple days ago I met with one of my clients. Amanda works full time and is married, with two very young children. She unknowingly offered some great advice while sharing a work related issue.   A committee she is on, requires everyone to pitch ideas and have them presented by just one person.  One of her coworkers is afraid Amanda won’t get credit for her individual input.  My client was surprised by this idea.  Amanda  shared that she doesn’t have the time or energy to worry about what people may or may not do.

She nailed it!  None of us has the time or energy to worry about what may or may not happen! That is a very valuable piece of a wellness model. Speaking of a wellness model, we should each have one. The first step requires asking yourself what does personal wellness looks like to you.  Give this some thought. Do you see yourself living a life free of doctors? Do you see yourself taking medicine. Do you see yourself having time for alternative therapies? What  colors, smells, textures bring calm to you.  Do you want animals in your life? What food do you eat. What people are in your life of wellness? Do you want naps and unscheduled time?  Do you need the city or the quiet? Where do you live?  Do you want to travel?  What are your spiritual practices? Where do you feel best?  What inspires you? Answering these questions can provide you a blue print for your wellness model.
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7 Everyday Yoga Habits To Implement Off The Mat

Most people associate yoga with an asana practice, but yoga isn't just about flowing through a series of poses, twisting yourself up like a pretzel, going upside down and sweating your butt off (although that part can be super fun and highly beneficial both physically and mentally in its own right). What I have come to learn is yoga is most importantly about how you live your life in all contexts.


The word ‘yoga’ signifies any form of connection and that when applied to the human experience, can be used to celebrate the union between the mind, body & spirit. At its most practical level, yoga is a process of becoming more aware of who we really are. As such, yoga is a process of self-discovery. Through its practices, we can still the mind and merge into oneness with the divine; to act with truth and authenticity. We are able to discern who we really are and what our purpose is. Hooked yet?

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9 Ways to Stay Positive, Even When You're Sick!

Your body is precious. It is our vehicle for awakening.Treat it with care. ~ Buddha


Some common advice? When you wake up feeling oh so crapola, don’t fall back on old habits. Try some of these reminders to eat, treat and sleep your way back to good health.


When we are at our weakest, we must be our most vigilant. When we are ill it is so easy to lose our bearings. We push ourselves beyond the breaking point ignoring all the self-care habits that are critical toward living our most authentic lives.

Being ill drains us physically, mentally, and spiritually. It’s at these low points that we tend to fall backwards on much of the progress we are making as we move into our most authentic lives. We say to ourselves that our new habits can be left by the wayside while we try and mend, and then we don’t go back to them. Or we find that balancing healthy, self-nurturing behaviors with a compromised body is simply too overwhelming.

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Healing Remembers Wholeness

Separate self syndrome


All of us are waves in the same ocean, different experiences on the same journey. Separate self syndrome is a common condition that leads to disease and suffering. It is caused by the belief you are an independent self separated from the world, at the mercy of vast uncontrollable forces. This sense of a separate self gets deeply ingrained in habitual patterns that take up all your attention and energy. You become scared of death, consumed with desire. Your separate self strikes out against the "other" it believes is trying to destroy it. It fills itself up with things promising to satisfy and sustain you, wearing you down into crisis and disease, always searching for answers.

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Is Your Home Making You Unwell?

Our homes are supposed to be a safe haven where we can rest and renew to face an outside world of dangers and stress. However, unfortunately, there are hazards in our homes that you may not even see that can be making you feel unwell.


In the Bathroom

Bathrooms are generally small spaces that are filled with heat and humidity which can promote the growth of mould, human body soil and waste, and chemicals from personal care and cleaning products. Health hazards may lurk on nearly every surface and in the air.

The biggest health dangers come from:

  • Improper cleaning and hand washing that leaves bacteria like E.coli and viruses on surfaces.
  • Cross-contamination from shared use of towels and bathmats that can spread bacteria and fungi like Athlete's Foot.
  • The use of harsh cleaning chemicals, spray air fresheners, and limiting fresh air.
  • Poor water quality
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8 Nutrients and 16 Foods to Boost Your Mood — What to Eat to Increase Happiness

As it turns out, what you eat can have a massive impact on your mood. Making a few simple changes to your diet can make a difference for your mental health. Discover the stunning power of mood-boosting foods and nutrients.

Can you remember a time when you weren’t in a good mood?

At a Food Revolution Network retreat, I asked team members to say three words about how they were feeling. When it was my turn, one of the words I used was sad.

Looking at me, you would have never known that’s how I felt. On the outside, I looked happy — I was even laughing not long before we started the exercise. But how I looked was a far cry from what was going on in my heart and in my mind.

Can You Boost Your Mood Naturally?


The truth is, we’ve all felt sad or even “down in the dumps.” And sometimes, no matter how hard you try, it’s hard to turn that frown upside down.

If you ever feel down, or lonely, you’re hardly alone. We live in a world where depression is at an all-time high. Worldwide, depression affects 322 million people.

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Welcome Faces

What do their faces say to you?

The Practice:
Welcome faces.

Why?

As our ancestors evolved over millions of years in small bands, continually interacting and working with each other, it was vitally important to communicate in hundreds of ways each day. They shared information about external "carrots" and "sticks," and about their internal experience (e.g., intentions, sexual interest, inclination toward aggression) through gestures, vocalizations - and facial expressions. Much as we developed uniquely complex language, we also evolved the most expressive face in the entire animal kingdom.

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Intuitive Self-Care: A List Of My Favorite Steps For Cultivating Self-Care And Wellness

Many of us are juggling so many responsibilities and challenges in life that our own health and self-care ends up on the back burner. From long workdays and endless obligations to putting others’ needs before our own and ignoring our inner voice and intuition, we’re like robotic race cars racing around on the verge of running out of electricity. (Mind you, our cars are at least environmentally friendly.) We don’t want to pull over to allow our engines to recharge because we might get behind in the race. Yet, if we stop to think about it, we aren’t quite sure what the race is ultimately for in the first place!

I’ve had so much going on lately it’s got me thinking about self-care and healing. Many of us are struggling with something these days—whether exhaustion, illness, allergies, pain, depression, anxiety, or a cold that doesn’t want to go away. Beyond those more obvious symptoms, so many of us just feel stressed and out of balance.

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One Simple Solution! One Step

Wouldn't be nice to not just react and place yourself outside the situation? Especially during stressful situations.

New research (cited here & below) reveals that in times of stress, talking to our selves in the third-person helps control emotions and enables our conductor-mind to manifest harmony (i.e., health) within our organ “orchestra” .




For example, say Bruce is stressed-out and is emotionally reactive when addressing himself in the first person: “Why am I distressed?” Bruce has a completely different response when he expresses his feelings in the third-person: “Why is Bruce distressed?”

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