Some of you have some really awful people in your lives. They are divine beings, but they’re just awful. They are awful in the respect that you are asking them for something that they don’t have the capacity to give you. That external rejection becomes your own internal rejection. 

We don’t need to make what other people think and feel about us relevant. 

Every day we are attacked by a multitude of pains, so frequent and so familiar we don't even question them. In fact, we accept them as friends, as something to occupy us. These pains can range from petty irritations to the anxiety we feel every time we write a check and see our bank balance decrease, to concerns about our health. One of the major sources of pain involves other people and our relationships with them. 

How often do you feel filled with inner peace, joy, and love – apparently for no reason? There is a reason, but it's not about anything external that's happening. For me, I have this wonderful experience when I am very connected with spirit and in deep surrender to my guidance. This wonderful, blissful energy of love, inner peace, and joy fills my being to overflowing. At these times, I can't stop smiling. Love pours out unendingly, and everything makes me giggle. Things that are not particularly funny to others strike me as hysterical and I laugh until my stomach aches. It is the very best feeling in the world! Sometimes I’m laughing and I have no idea what I am laughing at! I feel so blissful, joyful, and peaceful at these times!

This is causeless love, causeless joy, causeless inner peace – causeless bliss.

If you’re going to be successful in creating the life of your dreams, you must have self-confidence and believe that you’re capable of transforming your goals into reality.

But cultivating this kind of unshakeable self-confidence can be challenging – especially if you’ve ever suffered from low self-esteem. It can be easy to listen to your own negative self-talk and believe that you don’t have what it takes to make your dreams come true.

That said, if you are able to visualize yourself achieving a goal, you have the capacity to do so. This is something I deeply believe. The universe will not give you a dream that you don’t have the capacity to fulfill! And the only obstacle making it difficult for you to overcome self-doubt and unlock your full capacity is your own mind!

Who you are, is an amazing expression of the Divine. That means you actually live in infinite possibility.

Perhaps, because of our conditioning, it doesn’t always appear that way. Yet, we all live in the both/and, which is the place of infinite possibility.

No matter our circumstances, we are the Essential Self and have the ability to shed love on anything. We are always at choice to choose love.

Every sacred teaching throughout time has taught, and now science is proving, that love is the key. Not anger, but love. Not accusations and judgment projected onto others, but love. Not fear, but love.

In my work with couples, I am often asked, "Shouldn't I communicate with my partner about this? Shouldn't we talk this over?"

For example, Ginger told me that when her husband, Ron, became demanding sexually or started to complain about not having enough sex, she was sexually turned off. She would become defensive, explaining her feelings to Ron repeatedly, in hopes of getting him to stop. She hoped that if she explained herself enough, he would understand that his demanding and complaining turned her off. Sometimes Ginger thought there was something wrong with her sexually when she was not turned on, and other times she thought that if only Ron would stop demanding and complaining, everything would be okay. Yet nothing changed. No amount of talking or explaining helped.

Today I thought we would talk about feelings … your feelings. Ooh, not a popular subject for many people.

Who wants to feel their feelings?
Do you struggle with allowing yourself to feel your feelings?
Do you know that you’ve got a compartment sitting over there full of feelings that you don’t let come through?

So, let’s talk about that. When you think about feeling your feelings, what comes up for you? What do you recognize? What button gets pushed? What trigger shows up when you think about feeling your feelings?

Living in a state of Flow means letting the current of life take you. 

There’s something incredibly beautiful about this experience – living in surrender to the flow of life, allowing expansion to overcome you, being grounded without being rigid. 

And yet, flow isn’t always our natural tendency. It’s actually something we have to cultivate. With all of the uncertainty in the world, our instincts can tell us that we need to “hold onto the branch.” We’re afraid of being swept away, of losing control – so we contract. 

We begin grasping to control. We look for ways to force certainty as a response to the uncertainty of life. But the irony is that the more we hold on, the more we grasp and control, the more we keep going in a loop.

Your life begins to give you signals that something in your reality isn’t quite working. Your life begins to prompt you to begin to look a little bit deeper. For some of you it looks like a crisis, for others of you it looks like unprecedented success. Either way, life throws you into that which is uncomfortable so that you can get to know who you are beyond the neatly defined boundaries or edges that you have come to know as yourself. 

If you have ever sat down and seriously asked, “Who am I?” you’ve done something few people ever get around to. To seriously ask the question implies that you don’t already know the answer, and everyone does—or thinks they do. We use the word “I” all the time without finding any mystery to it. ‘I” is the identity that points to you, the individual. ‘I” is the skin-enclosed ego in the body you see in the mirror. “I” is the separate mind that makes you uniquely different from all the other people who walk around with their own version of “I.”

Life is getting better everyday. 

Sometimes you have the tendency to see what you want to see instead of seeing the truth or you come up with an interpretation rather than being with the truth. It’s important to get to a place and to have the courage to be honest with yourself about what that truth is. 

The mind can be a useful assistant, helping you to organize your life and complete tasks. It can also be a nag, constantly bothering you with worries and reminders. If not balanced with the calming energy of the heart or the breath, the mind can run amuck, always on high alert, looking for lists to make and problems to solve. Caffeine, in the form of coffee or tea, can exacerbate this. Meditation and deep slow breathing are helpful for slowing the mind down. This takes consistent practice, however. Meditators sometimes struggle to control their thinking instead of allowing thoughts to just pass through and disappear into emptiness. The mind can rebel by frantically running a commentary something like this: “What are you doing?! Stand up! Close the window. Take your vitamins. Make a grocery list. Do the laundry. Don’t just sit there!” Often lists will start forming in your head, and the mind will urge you to write them down immediately lest you forget. It requires an ongoing commitment to peace in order to relax your mind into accepting slow, quiet breathing and empty mental space. Being instead of doing.