You Can Practice Inner Bonding Even When You Are Happy!

You Can Practice Inner Bonding Even When You Are Happy!

Inner Bonding is a powerful process for healing the fear and false beliefs that cause our pain, and it's also a process for developing and enhancing our passion, productivity, and creativity.

A loving parent does not just attend to a child when he or she is crying or angry. Loving moms and dads enjoy holding and playing with their children when they are peaceful, laughing, and learning.

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How to Reclaim the Lost and Unloved Pieces of You

How to Reclaim the Lost and Unloved Pieces of You

Is something missing in your life; maybe you are constantly feeling the pull to search for something more? This feeling can range from a vague feeling like you misplaced something, to a very strong feeling of being abandoned. If this resonates, keep reading and discover how to reclaim the lost and unloved pieces of you.

Over a decade ago, I booked a private tour that shared sacred spots on the island of Kauai. It was really interesting. I could feel the powerful energy of the ceremonial stones. The same woman offered a private session to reclaim pieces of my fragmented soul.

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Do You Know What Makes You Feel Worthy Of Love?

Do You Know What Makes You Feel Worthy Of Love?

Central to our wellbeing is knowing that we are okay - that we are worthy, adequate, and lovable. Feeling that we are okay can come from two different sources:

  • Others' attention and approval
  • Our own loving adult connected with our spiritual guidance.

Codependency is the term used to describe the addiction to feeling okay through others.
 

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5 Mental Wellness Tips for When a Relationship Ends

5 Mental Wellness Tips for When a Relationship Ends

Like the old song says, breaking up is hard to do. The aftermath of a dissolved relationship provokes a strong emotional response that can even have physical consequences.

You should treat yourself gently during this time and take care to nurture your emotional well-being. Here are five mental wellness tips for when a relationship ends.

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Why Writing a Book Is an Act of Self Love

Why Writing a Book Is an Act of Self Love - Arielle Ford

As someone who has written 12 books, had a big career as a book publicist and a literary agent, I’ve been deep in the publishing world for most of my life.

Yesterday I was talking an old friend who was interviewing me for an article she is writing for a major publication about becoming an author in your later years, and I had an epiphany:

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Truth... And Authentic, Radical Love

Truth... And Authentic, Radical Love  - Dr. Margaret Paul

No matter how gently I offer it, sometimes the information is very difficult for the person to hear, such as, "Right now, you are pulling on everyone for love and approval. You have handed your inner child to everyone around you to take care of you. There must be a good reason you are doing this. Are you open to exploring this?" or "There must be a very good reason that there is no loving adult present here. There is just a wounded child. Are you willing to open to learning about this?" or "I cannot feel you when you cry like this. This pain is the pain of a victim, trying to get someone to take care of you. This is pain that you are causing by your own self-judgment and self-abandonment. This crying is a pull on others to take care of you. You hope others will feel sorry for you and have compassion for you because you have no compassion for yourself. There must be some very good reasons that you are abandoning yourself right now. Are you willing to open to learning about this?"
 

When I say these things to people, they are often furious with me.

They think I am judging them rather than offering them a truth. They do not get that truth is love - authentic radical love. Without knowing the truth about their intention and their behavior, they cannot heal. The truth opens the door for them to start loving themselves instead of spending all their energy trying to get others to love them.

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What Does it Mean to 'Speak Up' for Yourself?

What Does it Mean to 'Speak Up' for Yourself?  - Dr. Margaret Paul

We are often told that it's important to speak up for ourselves, but we have few role models for what this looks like.

Gwendolyn asked the following question about this topic:

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Why Am I Here?

Why Am I Here?

You may ask yourself this from time to time. Not just in reference to a particular place but also here on Earth, in this life. The answer to both is the same: Love. You are here to love—every person, event, experience, and complicated nuance in your life. Why? Because love is who you are at your core; you were born out of love, human and divine, and to express it is part of the human and planetary design. It is as natural as breathing, and as essential to life. Love is woven into the fabric of everything, and it is renewed and enlivened by our expressing it on a daily basis. Without that living manifestation of our core essence, we and the planet would shrivel and die.

Sometimes the path of purpose can be hidden, seemingly impossible to find, but it’s really quite simple. We aren’t here to make lots of money or a name for ourselves, to accumulate possessions or stocks and bonds. Those are distractions, side events that eventually we see through and move on from. The human course is not necessarily self-evident, but gradually our life experiences awaken us to who we really are at the soul level. We finally see the truth that George Bailey did in the classic film It’s a Wonderful Life: No one is a failure who has friends, and kindness and generosity made him the “richest man in town.” Without his presence, no one else in his life would have fully lived who they came here to be. Same with each of us. You affect many more people than you know.

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5 Ways to Embrace Acceptance and Self-Love

5 Ways to Embrace Acceptance and Self-Love

Whatever you are going through right now, know that you are always the one in full control of your life. The law of attraction is true to its meaning: all thoughts turn into things, eventually. Like attracts like, so to speak. In other words, the energy from our thoughts, be it positive or negative, attracts experiences of the same energy to come into our lives or manifest. This kind of mindset is imperative especially when confronted with the underlying challenges in your life. Acknowledging your emotions, especially any feelings of guilt, shame, hopelessness, insolvency, and gaslighting is the first step towards rebuilding one’s sense of acceptance and self-love. 

Self-love is something many people do not consider because we tend to put the needs of others first before ourselves. However, it becomes important for you to care for yourself first, otherwise, you may not be able to care for others.

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Single and Feeling Great!

Single and Feeling Great! - Dr. Margaret Paul

Is it possible to feel great being single? Yes, of course it is! There are many people who love being single. However, not everyone likes it.

Lorna is struggling with this issue with her wounded self:

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6 Things You Can Do Today for a Better Future

6 Things You Can Do Today for a Better Future

People often forget that the most important person in their lives is themselves. You are the most significant person in your life, and you need to start acting like it. You need to be kind to yourself, take care of your needs, and always be gentle. If you don't think you are doing those things, today is the day to make a change. 

Start living in the moment and see how your future changes for the good. Even the small changes are good, and you can make them one day at a time. And don't get overwhelmed because you don't have to turn your life upside down to make it count.  

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Minimize Painful Experiences

Minimize Painful Experiences Minimize Painful Experiences

Are you feeling unneeded pain?

The Practice:
Minimize painful experiences.

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3 Ways To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

3 Ways To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

“Let’s keep in touch,” she said breezily, as the evening ended. And I thought to myself that could get expensive for me, what with the therapy bills and all.

Been there? Ready to stop comparing yourself to others? Here are three things to keep in mind:

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15 Ways to Allow Your Feminine Energy to Flow in Your Work, Money, Love and Life

15 Ways to Allow Your Feminine Energy to Flow in Your Work, Money, Love and Life

As I mentioned in my earlier article, The Rise of the Divine Feminine,our world is experiencing a profound energetic shift. The Divine Feminine is rising and changing the very fabric of life, affecting the way we work, make money, relate to one another, and more.

The old, primarily masculine way of operating in the world is no longer working. Years ago, hard work used to get us what we wanted. Nowadays, the harder we push, the less things flow. If you want to create abundance, love, and joy, it’s important to get in touch with your Divine Feminine energy.

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Are You Missing Out on What Life Is All About?

Are You Missing Out on What Life Is All About? - Dr. Margaret Paul
"Love is life... And if you miss love, you miss life." - Leo Buscaglia, author

Take a moment to think about Leo Buscaglia's quote. Have you ever thought about love this way – that you actually miss living your life if love isn't what your life is about?

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Open Your Heart and Change Your World

Open Your Heart and Change Your World - Courtney Long

An open heart is the key to a happy and successful life. If you want more love, passion, abundance, and joy in your life, it starts by opening your heart.

Opening your heart leads to deep, meaningful, authentic love with yourself, your partner (if you have one), family, friends, community, and life. When you open your heart, life becomes magical! It helps you feel turned on for life!

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What Makes You Feel Loved?

What Makes You Feel Loved?  - Maria Shriver
         “Sometimes it's a form of love just to talk to somebody that you have nothing in common with and still be fascinated by their presence.”
David Byrne

I've Been Thinking...

My brother sent me a quote from Leonard Cohen the other day that took my breath away. Read it with me, will you?   


“I greet you from the other side of sorrow and despair, with a love so vast and shattered it will reach you everywhere.”

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Feed the Wolf of Love

Feed the Wolf of Love - Rick Hanson

Which wolf do you feed?

The Practice:
Feed the wolf of love.

Why?

I once heard a teaching story in which an elder, a grandmother, was asked what she had done to become so happy, so wise, so loved, and respected. She replied: “It’s because I know that there are two wolves in my heart, a wolf of love and a wolf of hate. And I know that everything depends on which one I feed each day.”

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5 Sensual Self-Love Dates this Valentine’s Day

5 Sensual Self-Love Dates this Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is not just meant for couples. It is a celebration of LOVE! Who better to celebrate love with than yourself? In fact, did you know that February 13, the day before Valentine’s Day, is International Self-Love Day? This holiday was created to remind us to show ourselves love – not just in mid-February but every day.

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How Willing Are You to Learn to Love Yourself?

How Willing Are You to Learn to Love Yourself?

"The world is filled with willing people; some willing to work, the rest willing to let them."
 ~Robert Frost

Take a moment to think about this quote by Robert Frost. Which are you? How much work are you willing to put into learning to love yourself and taking responsibility for your feelings? Or are you only willing to watch others do their inner work, hoping they will change in the way you want them to?

'Willingness.' This word is a major part of Step One of Inner Bonding. In order to move through the Steps, we need to be willing to feel our pain rather than avoid it. We need to be willing to discover what we might be doing – what we are telling ourselves and how we are treating ourselves – that may be causing our pain. We need to be willing to feel the very painful core feelings of life – the loneliness, heartbreak, grief, and helplessness over others and over life events - that occur when others are unloving, or when we experience loss of a loved one or loss of financial security, or when we witness people hurting other people.

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Join Panache Desai each weekday morning for support in reconnecting to the wellspring of calm and peace that lives within you and that has the power to counterbalance all of the fear, panic, and uncertainty that currently engulfs the world.

Designed To Move You From Survival and Fear to Safety and Peace. Available Monday - Friday. Meditation begins at 9 AM.  Access early to hear Panache's monologue -  around 8:30 AM.