It's easy to forget that we are all perfect in our own design. Sometimes we muck it up with habits and choices that do not serve us.
The world is not holding you back. You are holding the world back. You are holding back your strength and your strength can make a difference at this time. You have a power in you that can move mountains, and, better yet, people. But you’re still allowing others to tell you what’s possible or right.
Maybe you’re still chasing kudos to glue some sequined wings onto your hobbled back. But no amount of approval will ever set loose the inspired potential that you already possess. You have the power to shed your ordinary skin. You have the power to turn pain into hope, disconnection into union, and this moment into a balm to some section of humanity. You are holding back the floodgates of your own wild ride.
Wild success is not about what the world can give to you, but what you can give to the world.
It isn’t about the desperate rat race to secure things that vanish overnight. It’s a feeling of ease and authority. It’s knowing you have something to give and that as you give it, you are given everything you could ever need. When you step into this realm, you know you don’t have to grasp to make anything happen. You know you will be delivered. You know you will deliver. Your True Self takes a breath. Even your little self takes a breath. For me, this was entering the big time.
A Course in Miracles talks about grandeur versus grandiosity. Grandiosity is of the ego, the striving part of us that wants to feel better about ourselves by having big things happen, winning popularity contests, money, fame, and a few parking passes in the rock star arena of life. Grandeur is the largesse of spirit we show up in. We may also attract money, fame, crowds, and opportunities. But the circumstances don’t validate or redeem us. The agents, talk shows, investors and the like show up to accommodate the strength and light that we already possess, the wild kind, the kind that can never be taken away.
For years, I waited for the world to give me permission to shine. I wanted the world to carve out a path for me, reserve a beach cabana in my name, or roll out the red carpet. I didn’t realize I was the magic carpet. I was the burning bush. I was someone who could make a difference in someone else’s life. Finally, I began to practice showing up the way I would if a million people were validating my greatness and begging for my expression. I started allowing myself to feel the delicious authority of giving what I had to give. And here’s the marvel I discovered:
Unconditional love is unconditional power.
When I started standing in my love, I didn’t need the world to see my power.
I saw it. I knew it.
Everything else was just inevitable.
For so long, I wanted to give my gifts to mankind, if they’d have me. I often said, “I want to live in a world that champions visionaries and creative and alternative abilities.” I’d repeat it like a drunk at the bar, summoning grandness while laying my head down on the sticky counter and closing my eyes. I wanted that world to just appear. But, finally, I realized that maybe our culture didn’t need my idle wishes. Maybe it needed my contribution. Maybe it needed my sensitivities, ---and my sweat.
Yes, I know, many of us feel as though we’re just stumbling through the fog, trying to find the front door to our own life, and that we don’t have anything to offer humanity. We may feel like your average garden snake, or, sometimes, your average garden snake that needs just a bit more therapy than your average garden snake. Yet standing in our power isn’t about how wonderful we are, as much as it’s about how willing we are. We are willing to play for Team Light. We are willing to give what we have. We are willing to let our own sad opinions of ourselves grumble in the background, but not stop us from standing on the new ground of sharing our true selves.
Make the choice. Decide to play big, shine in your own way, and take a stand for your talent, message or service. As a speaker I’ve learned that if you’re not willing to rock the boat, you’ll never rock the house. Inspiration asks you to be a servant and sometimes you serve by leading. Can you imagine if Martin Luther King didn’t want to be a “loud mouth” or a “big shot?” Or what if Jesus mumbled? There comes a time when you will have to stand up for the magnificent truth that trembles in your heart and bones. When you step out in this way, you are actually letting go of your ego, not letting it decide for you. You will stand out-- and disappear into your gift at the same time.
I remember churning with the fear of alienating myself by owning my own strength and power. I “played small” because I desperately wanted to be liked. Doing a session with a business success coach, I told him “I’m afraid I’ll lose people if I stand in my strength.” He didn’t miss a beat. “You will,” he said, “You will lose weak people, spiteful people, people who want to keep you down,” he said, “But you will attract other people, people who want to play with other people in their power. You will attract the people who love the light.” He sold me and I hope I’m selling you.
You are here to give what you came to give, not what others want you to give. You can be “nice” and take your cues from others who don’t hear the same music or you can sing the song that no one has heard, but some have waited an entire lifetime to hear. Ron wanted to facilitate a men’s support group. Some of his friends had different ideas about how the group should run. “I don’t want to step on anybody’s toes,” Ron said. “But the idea for the gathering came to you,” I said. “You are being asked to hold the tone.” Ron chose to be polite and then bored. He “made sure that everyone had a voice.” But he lost his. And so did our world.
You are the steward of an unimaginable resource. Discover who you really are, by dazzling unconditionally. The world can’t give you this power. The current culture often doesn’t invite genius, because it doesn’t know-- what it doesn’t know. Dare to experience your own grandeur, the feeling of giving everything you have and receiving everything you are, all in the same breath. As you do this, the quality, energy and form of your expression has to expand. It’s inevitable. Big love attracts big love.
(Please note: this piece is excerpted/adapted from my book Inspired & Unstoppable: Wildly Succeeding in Your Life’s Work! (Tarcher/Penguin) But of course you can order it on Amazon. How nice of you to ask!)
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