We are all creatures of our own kind, unique to each experience. We react to situations according to our individual perception. We can actually say that we each one of us respond to stress in our own unique fashion.
Although most of the responses seem to have a universality about them, as basic human nature remains the same, yet I feel that our personal identity which reflects the uniqueness of our own persona also impacts our stress response in a given particular situation.
I think and feel that the most fascinating part of the human species is the individual status of each one of us. Of course in the lesser aware and lesser educated beings a commonality of thought does exist, but it is only the uniqueness of a person that truly impacts society and social norms.
It is extremely essential that we are able to identify our stress triggers. They are of a varied nature. Anything and everything can lead to a stressful nature of an individual, each showing up according to his own inherent temperament.
1. Physical attack
2. Emotional abuse
3. Feeling unwanted
4. Feeling unloved
5. Overly sensitive nature
6. Job related stress
7. Relationship issues
8. Environmental stress
Some of us are simply born more reactive to stress, or we may say oversensitive. The differences in temperament are visible right from the childhood of a person. We can observe very commonly that children born in the same family respond differently to the same situation. Thus their levels of stress can be gauged according to their individual responses due to their inherent temperaments.
Most of the incidents which have left an impact on our life, continue to affect our lives. They make the impact of most actions right or wrong. We as individuals have a habit of slipping into a comfort zone with these thought patterns and keep playing the same scenario over and over again in our minds.
We need to discard these thought patterns consciously in order to be in the healthy stress free zone.
We are constantly in the process of an inner dialogue, and most of the time we are sending ourselves negative messages. This becomes a self fulfilling prophecy as we attract situations according to our thought process. Negative messages will only attract negative situations.
Our subconscious mind is constantly sending messages to us which furthermore create our reality. We could be saying words like" This is hard to do"
"This cannot be handled" "This is not possible "
These negative subliminal messages are eroding our confidence at some level and allowing stress to start finding a niche.
It is very easy to turn negative, as on a larger canvas, the human being is ruled by fear. Fearful thoughts negate our commitment to ourselves, as we start doubting our own capabilities We in turn erode our sense of self worth with these negative messages to ourselves.
Most of the time our negative thinking colors every action. We respond to our environment and our lives with the color and tempo of our thoughts
Research has shown that the ratio of possibility for a relationship to be healthy is five to one, negative to positive.
We need to be careful about choosing our thoughts.
Self talk can be harmful, but helpful too. It depends on us, how we can turn it to a helpful direction.
Due to all the above mentioned triggers, our perception of stress, moves accordingly. Since the human mind is continuously influenced by our thoughts. We need to see to it that our thought patterns remain positive.
Our own thinking ultimately is the culprit of our whole scenario.
It has been observed that the type of words we use, alter the expectations and perceptions of reality. For example
1. If a friend tells you that someone is not nice, you tend to believe it.
2. The doctor tells you that a procedure will hurt, you will believe it, and it starts hurting. Your belief in the doctors words makes it happen.
3. Research also tells us that people using different languages, see and perceive the same thing differently. Perception which gets altered towards the negative, definitely does affect our stress levels.
Once we have deciphered a broad spectrum of, what are the key factors affecting our stress levels, we know how to conquer them.
No matter what our individual differences may be, by and large, our response to stress, is governed by our controlling our minds and our inherent thought.
Learn to notice when you are getting self critical. Nip it in the bud.
Thoughts are not always a reality. You are responsible for creating them and their further reality.
Do not empower negative thoughts by constantly focusing on them.
Think with a calm mind. Looking at the same situation, in terms of short term benefits is different. Think long term. Allow life a chance to sort itself through the power of positivity.
Shift your mind set, and relax, enjoy your new perspective.
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