It's easy to forget that we are all perfect in our own design. Sometimes we muck it up with habits and choices that do not serve us.
"There are many ways of going forward, but only one way of standing still." -Franklin D. Roosevelt
Hi there. How are you feeling today? Take a minute to check in with yourself. Are you doing OK?
There’s a lot going on in our country and in the world, so if your answer is “no,” I totally get that. The news is coming at us at such a dizzying pace that it’s really challenging to keep up with it all, much less know what to make of it. At least that’s how I’m feeling. So my thought for this Sunday is “let’s take a break from it all.”
People are tired and exhausted. Tired from trying to keep it all together. Exhausted from trying to figure out how to pivot, how to redirect, how to home school, how to shift a business model, how to care for everyone and act like it’s no big deal.
We all know the election is around the corner. In fact, millions of people have already voted, including me! We know the importance of voting. We know that elections are often decided by the smallest of numbers. We know that regardless of the noise out there, that mail-in voting is dependable and accurate. We know. We know. We know.
So let’s take a beat and think about what may not be as clear to us on this day: the level of our own internal noise. When we are exhausted and exasperated, we aren’t helping lower the temperature of the world. When we are yelling and judging and shaming, we aren’t moving any ball forward, much less moving humanity forward.
Before we talk about resetting the country and resetting our politics, perhaps we could all take a moment and reset our own personal temperatures. Right after the first presidential debate, I heard a well-known Republican commentator say that the president came in too hot. He said it’s hard for people to hear hot. That’s the truth. Hot begets more hot, and people are tired. We’re tired of trying to speak up and being interrupted. Tired of trying to make a logical point and getting misinterpreted. It’s so hot out there that it’s hard to hear what we need to hear.
In therapy, I learned a term that stuck with me: flooded. When someone is yelling and attacking you or misinterpreting you, you are allowed to say “Stop, I’m flooded. I can’t hear you anymore. Your words aren’t landing.” It means “l need a break.” It means “I’ll come back to this conversation when things are calmer, when I’ve gathered myself and when you’ve gathered yourself.”
I think we are all “flooded” and we all need a break to be with our own being. To be in silence. To be with our own thoughts. To grieve, if necessary. To gather ourselves. To rest. Really rest! We need a break from the noise, and from people telling us what to do or how to think.
A friend once said something about me that really landed. He said, “Every time I tell you I’m tired or I tell you all I’ve done, you just suggest one more thing I can do. I feel like you don’t hear me. Instead of giving me more to do, what I want you to say is ‘I see all you have done. I see that you are tired. I hope you rest. You deserve rest.’”
Bam. Ouch. I’ve thought a lot about that piece of “constructive criticism” and have tried to adjust so that I don’t get it again from anyone else. So on this Sunday, instead of giving you an assignment 😍, I want to say, “I see all you have done. I see all that you are trying to do to stay afloat. I bet you’re so tired. I am too.”
So today, please rest. It’s Sunday, after all. You deserve to rest. We all do. Today, I hope you take a moment and acknowledge all that you have been doing. I bet you are flooded. Breathe. I’m sorry about all the chaos, all the work, all the anxiety, apprehension, and fear. I’m not going to suggest you do anything more today except Rest. Breathe. Be.
PRAYER OF THE WEEK
Dear God, there is a lot happening right now, but in the midst of it all, don’t let me forget to acknowledge all I am doing. Don’t let me forget to rest, breathe, and just be. Amen.
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