The stresses are created in this very state, so they can only be de activated in this state of mind.
You can remember many instances in your life which made you elated. It could have been a matter of getting a first class in High School, a post graduate degree with flying colors, the excitement on the day you got married or when you bought your first car. These were all moments of elation in your life, but did that happiness continue is the question. It was only transitory, it lasted in moments, and then after a little while brought you back to your same old questioning self.
You have to learn to make a choice. Life changes everyday from moment to moment. You need to decide what is it that you desire. Allow the divine order to flow through you.