In this episode, I share some thoughts, ideas, inspiration and perspective of the COVID-19 pandemic crisis that we are currently experiencing. My intention is to help you move through this time with much more insight, wisdom, resilience, willingness, openness and understanding, so that you’re able to participate in such a way you will grow, evolve, purify and cleanse your own consciousness to come out even stronger on the other side. COVID-19 is a wake up call.
Give over to good.
In every moment, you and I and everyone and everything else – from quantum foam to fleeting thoughts, intimate relationships, rainforest ecosystems, and the stars themselves – are each a kind of standing wave, like the ever-changing though persistent pattern of water rising above a boulder in a river.
We are the result of multiple causes flowing through us. As Buckminster Fuller famously said, “I seem to be a verb.”
This fact is amazing, but it’s corroborated by both modern physics and deep ecology. We can get silly-cosmic about it (done this myself – not only as a college sophomore!), but the implications are very down to earth.
As unique standing waves, you and I are constructed each moment by the currents – the forces and factors, both internal and external – flowing through us. We have no choice about being lived by these currents, continually given over to them.
But we can choose to give ourselves over to the good ones.
By “good,” I mean that which leads to happiness and benefit for you and others; “bad” means the opposite. (Of course, honesty about what is actually turning out to be truly good is important; history holds many cautionary tales about people giving themselves over to things they thought were good – e.g., Nazism – but weren’t.)
Giving over to good means relaxing into, opening to, being buoyed and guided by things like your own naturally good heart, the impulse to take the high road, love, compassion, vitality, courage, the longing for justice, and the wisdom and support of good friends.
Then your life’s wave becomes simpler, happier, and more beneficial.
There are two steps: knowing what the “good” is for you, and then giving yourself over to it.
I stop in the middle of our conversation on the street and feel those around us working on themselves and their relationships, solving problems and imagining new ways of being. For a moment, as the sun comes through, I can sense the entire city at work on their worth, unlacing trouble, looking for peace, each trying in their own way to be kind and useful in the face of storm and time. I am stopped by the sound and glow of souls being hammered in the smithy of circumstance. I lift my face to the sun, thankful to be part of an unfinished humanity, everyone trying to find the love and keep the love, everyone working as a part in the unseeable Whole. All of us like a medieval guild working in the sun: this one repairing a wheel, that one cobbling a shoe, and another repairing the path, while someone over there is baking bread. And the secret is revealed: we are never more alive than when working on the way.
While the number of zeros in your bank account certainly aren’t the only determiner of your quality of life, the direct correlation between one’s health and wealth can’t be ignored. While Americans at any income level are statistically less healthy than those with a higher income, wealth includes more than just your paycheck.
It also includes your net worth, assets, and abundance of valuable possessions and experiences in life. Your wealth has a direct affect on your health in such a way that you might be harming yourself if you ignore it. The greater your wealth, the lower your likelihood of disease, premature death, and countless other health concerns.
But what is wealth?
A dear friend, and self love expert, Christine Arylo www.christinearylo.com reminded me of the actual definition of wealth. If you look up the word wealth in the dictionary the original root meaning of the word was happiness. In the 1700’s, the definition changed. Wealth definition became “the accumulation of money”. This was happening at the beginning of the industrial revolution, it was all about consuming and accumulating. Hmmmm…interesting! The second root meaning of wealth is shown on dictionary.com is that wealth is modeled on our health. So our wealth is related to wellness. Which is exactly my point.
It’s time to awaken your wealth so you can reach your greatest happiness and health potential.
There are some things we should all know -- without having to think about it: humanity is headed in the wrong direction. Everyone knows this except for those who believe they can benefit from tearing their own ship apart -- while it's still at sea -- in order to sell its pieces at a profit.
But, much as in the timeless story of "The Emperor's Clothes," where no one would speak the truth of their ruler's nakedness for fear of losing the King's favor, so we continue to deceive ourselves. We hope for a happy ending that never comes...because undetected self-deception never ends. How can it when the only thing we change about ourselves are images that have already proven powerless to change anything? And so it is that blame has become the balm of our suffering. Yet, rather than healing these wounds in our psyche, such fault-finding only makes them worse, and the cycle of pain deepens in the darkness of ourselves. Let's be clear:
"...in trying to help others, we might come to realize that compassionate action involves working with ourselves as much as working with others." -Pema Chödrön
I've Been Thinking...
The other morning, I awoke early. It was dark outside, and the rain that greeted me the previous mornings had stopped. Now there was only silence at my door.
Over the past few days, I’ve tried to stick to my morning routine: Prayer before my feet hit the floor, coffee, meditation/silence, and then exercise. What comes next has been, let’s say, more fluid.
With nowhere to go, I started practicing as if I had to go to work. I got dressed. I got ready. I wrote and practiced “calm, heart-based leadership” for my Sunday Paper team and my Women’s Alzheimer’s Movement crew, both who are also at home trying to stay calm and carry on. I also practiced it for my kids, who have seemed extremely concerned about me, reminding me hourly that I’m in the “vulnerable population“ and that I dare not go out lest I end up in the hospital. In fact my son, Patrick, has moved in with me to make sure I'm not alone. (How touching is that!)
As I often say, some people are attracted to light, while others emanate it. Let me tell you a story about the parents of a very good friend of mine. This is such a special story and one I hold close to my heart.
Ken and Pat are from Great Britain and were in the U.S. for a visit. I thought I’d surprise them by taking them out on a very special boat trip. It was the first time Ken and Pat were going to experience a whale-watching excursion.
As the boat slipped away from the New England harbor, Ken was clearly eager as he looked overboard, scanning the water with his battered and aged binoculars. The boat gathered speed and we headed out into the ocean, which was unbelievably calm. It was about an hour and a half later that we saw in the distance the first spouts from a family of whales.
The captain announced we were going to edge closer to the whales. He explained: “Male humpback whales sing the longest and most complex songs in the animal kingdom, each one lasting for half an hour or so. They sing to woo females and frighten off rival males. The songs can be heard underwater hundreds of miles away!”
“What you thank in life and in another person, you actually enliven.”
THANK YOU. Perhaps two of the most potent words you could say. If all you did was say a heartfelt “Thank you” each moment of your life to everyone you met, miracles would occur. Listen to this episode and learn the true power of ‘living thank you’ and how it will bring you more than just a full heart but a state of enlivenment and abundance in your life.
Some Questions I Ask:
- Who are you grateful for in your life?
- Who do you need to thank?
- What are you taking for granted?
- How can you thank those that challenge you the most?
- Who is the most important person to thank?
In This Episode You Will Learn:
- The best place to start in your gratitude process.
- How the power of living Thank You can accelerate your growth and expansion.
- The one key thing to focus on in any situation.
- How to 'live your thank you'.
- How to get unstuck in your life and move into a state of manifestation and inspiration.
Diseases point the way to the future if we pay attention. This holds especially true of the global outbreak of coronavirus COVID-19. It is clear that some important lessons have emerged already. Some of these are obvious because they are so visible: Uncertainty is a major cause of panic. No one could miss that lesson. Economies reflect mass psychology. This lesson follows from the first, because the plunge in worldwide markets has been driven by uncertainty.
But if you look a bit deeper, COVID-19 exposes a need to take human well-being more seriously. The great push to create a welfare state is around a century old, and certain countries like Sweden and Denmark went much further than the United States. But even in places where democratic socialism won the day, true human welfare wasn’t addressed. The basic right to have guaranteed housing medicine, and education—the cornerstones of the modern welfare state—treat people as economic units.
Actual well-being looks very different. Its hallmarks are community and mutual support, valuing happiness as essential to human life, affording lifelong good health, living in an environment with pure air and water, a lack of violence with a necessary emphasis on peace, equal acceptance for all, and the abolition of us-versus-them thinking of the kind that builds barriers of every kind.
In the ocean of history, things build and then are worn away to what is most essential. This is an irrevocable and recurring tide of time. And while the storms, whatever their form, first push us away, it is only by coming together that we endure and emerge even stronger, clearer, and more loving. This seems to be where we are now. And the practice, so simple and so difficult, is how to move through the days with caution and care, without feeding our panic. For the other virus spreading now is fear. We all feel it, calling us with its hypnotic frenzy. But one thing I’ve learned from almost dying from cancer is that fear is to be moved through and not obeyed. And we need each other in order to see clearly so we can right-size what is before us—day after day.
I've Been Thinking...
“We would like the country to realize that as a nation we can’t be doing the kinds of things we were doing a few months ago…” —Dr. Anthony Fauci, director of the National Institute of Allergy and Infectious Diseases
That is the truth of this moment and what a moment this is. It’s a moment to listen up, pay attention, and follow the guidelines so that those on the frontlines are better able to do their jobs.
Like all of you, I’ve been trying to make sense of the seriousness of this moment and yet also get some perspective as I’ve lived through many big “moments” in my life. The Cuban missile crisis, the civil rights movement, the Vietnam War, the AIDS epidemic, and of course, 9/11.
All of our lives are made up of moments. Some big. Some small. Some inconsequential. Some life defining. Some joy-filled. Some traumatic.
Usually, the moments we experience in our lifetime are deeply personal. The moment you fall in love. The moment your child is born. The moment you get your dream job. The moment someone you love passes away.
It’s rare, however, that we face a collective moment like the one we are experiencing right now. Rarely do we all experience a moment like this simultaneously.
As I continue to grow my work, my message, my reach and my life, like those who are just beginning this path—I find myself on the “hero’s journey,” the walk into a mythical forest. It’s dark and dank and on so many days I wonder what the hell I was really following. Maybe I don’t want to be a stupid hero. Maybe I just want to be saved. Worse yet, maybe I’m not following anything except a delusion– and now something stinky, clawed, and real is following me.
And then there are those other days. These are the days when you walk through the darkness, resolved, accepting the fate you chose.
You decide to bet the farm on your own life.
You call yourself a pilgrim instead of a fool.
You walk deeper into your life. And then, just a few steps further from the darkest patch of forest, you come upon a clearing, a meadow, a thousand yellow buttercups, or red Indian paint brush and the sun gleams in a way that paints your name, your nick name, on each petal of every flower and you know in an undeniable way that you are exactly where you are meant to be; it’s a greater sense of security than any amount of money could offer you. It’s hitting the mother of all jackpots, the great sweet Power Ball of the Universe.
I woke up this morning to news about world markets crashing, Corona virus numbers doubling, speaking engagements being canceled, and so much more.
And yet, I am feeling very optimistic as I wash my hands in hot soapy water and make a list of more food to store up on “just in case.”
Why am I feeling good?
Because my faith is strong that despite what is happening in the outer world (where I have little control) my inner world knows that whatever happens, ultimately I am OK and I am going to be OK.
This is a conscious choice to not dive into the worry and despair and anxiety that is prevalent right now.
Stress is self created, therefore mastering ourselves is truly in our own hands. Stress looms large on a conscious or sub conscious level in our lives. As much as it is the manifestation of our own minds, it is also controlled by it, and we need to understand this.
SOURCE OF POWER
The power of the sub conscious is a power that never sleeps or rests. We can discover it's miraculous effects by plainly stating to the subconscious, before sleeping, a specific required accomplishment. Amazingly, much to your initial surprise, you will see your desire accomplished. Here is a power putting you in touch with the universal forces. Live in the faith and belief, as to the wisdom of the Universe. This is the power that moves the world
What’s the first thing you think when you make a mistake? If you’re like most people, you will either blame someone else or blame yourself.
Blaming, even blaming yourself, is not at all the same thing as being accountable.
Why is it so hard to be accountable for ourselves – to take responsibility for ourselves? One of the problems may lie in the connotations we have applied to these words.
Wouldn’t it be nice to take a step back every once in a while…
Step away from the emotion of the moment…
Step away from the anger and pain…
And see your life… each person and situation you encounter daily…
As an objective and silent observer.
Neutrality is the N in PLATINUM.
PLATINUM is the high frequency master password that allows you to unlock the best version of yourself.
In a state of NEUTRALITY you can be the silent observer of all your challenges and stay balanced and calm…
You can remain calm and free of beliefs and attachments that cause anger and hurt to come so quickly…
You are not triggered by other people’s opinions and criticism…
In a state of neutrality you are empowered and powerful.
Do you know how much Spirit loves you? How the Divine Consciousness (Quantum Fred, God, The Dude, Mary and/or whoever else you name Divine) sees you as a spark of its own Infinite Unlimited Potential? That you are definitely not here as a mistake, that your dreams are most important and that your desire for a purposeful new life are sacred?
You’re not being punished or threatened just because transformation is painful.
Just like birthing a baby, we are at an overly prolonged crowning stage and yes let’s all say OUCH together!
Here is what I know today more than ever as I myself have stepped into a more authentic version of myself. Resistance is futile. Have courage and jump in and you will honestly find that if you let go of what’s not working, and you will see this change is magical!
You must feel this chaos at some level within you that mirrors the astrologers’ take on how the planets are teaching us about transformation.
Find the good news.
“Tell the truth.” It’s the foundation of science – and the foundation of healthy relationships, communities, and countries.
But the truth of things is complicated. To simplify, there is the good of things that are enjoyable and helpful, the bad of things that are painful and harmful, and the neutral of things that are neither.
We need to recognize genuinely bad news for our own sake and to take care of others. But we also need to recognize good news: things that are useful, reassuring, inspiring, opportunities, solutions, etc.
The Brain’s Negativity Bias
Unfortunately, we have a brain that generally fixates on bad news and brushes past good news. Over the 600 hundred million year evolution of the nervous system, our ancestors:
- Had to avoid two kinds of mistakes: (1) thinking that there’s a tiger in the bushes but actually all is well, or (2) thinking that all is well while actually there is a tiger about to pounce. What’s the cost of the first mistake? Just needless worry. But what’s the potential cost of the second mistake? Ulp, no more mistakes . . . forever. So we have a brain that tends to make the first mistake again and again to avoid ever making the second one.
- Had to get “carrots” such as food and avoid “sticks” such as predators. Imagine living back in the Stone Age – or even Jurassic Park. If you didn’t get a carrot today, you’d have another chance tomorrow. But if you didn’t avoid every single stick today, game over. Consequently, negative experiences are fast-tracked into memory – “once burned, twice shy” – while most positive experiences slip through the brain like water through a sieve. In effect, the brain is like Velcro for negative experiences but Teflon for positive ones.
As a result, we routinely overestimate threats while underestimating opportunities and resources. Some people have an “optimism bias” in what they say. But in their actions, studies show that most people work harder to avoid pain than to get pleasure and remember failures and rejections more than successes and kindness from others. One result is that the media focuses on bad news, because that’s what people pay attention to; thus, the saying in journalism, “if it bleeds, it leads.”
We, as logical humans, can get so caught up in preparation.
We want to be ready and fully prepared in order to avoid mistakes and failures, so we spend a lot of time getting ready… but do you know how much time you waste getting ready to be ready? You get readier than you need to be, avoid mistakes that don’t need to be avoided, and soon you’re the chief of overprepared! While this might make you think yourself into feeling better, it might be stunting your progress and growth.
The Problem With Over-Preparedness
Don’t get me wrong, preparedness is a great thing. God knows in my life, I’ve been WELL overprepared! In this world of information with lists of how-tos, to-dos, and to-avoids, there is always something more to learn… which is a recipe for insanity if we get sucked in. Answers to practically any question ever asked is a simple internet search away, making the amount of education available incredibly overwhelming. If we aren’t careful, we will feel lost in our lack of information which does nothing but distract from the good we could be doing in these moments.
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