If your partner cheats on you, it is undoubtedly deeply painful.

To feel your heart and trust betrayed is a difficult thing to recover from.

So does that automatically mean the end of your relationship?

Consider this:

Relationship is a profound path of personal growth, and spiritual evolution.

You attracted your partner because your souls have certain things to teach each other. The purpose of relationship is to serve each other’s soul growth, learn those lessons, and become the most authentic version of yourself.

So if you understand the real purpose of relationship, then you also understand that inevitably your issues will come up in the relationship, in order to be worked on.

This past weekend I was honored to officiate my first wedding…my beautiful niece Rachel and her soulmate Jason.

It was an inspiring, beautiful, and fun event with more than 250 friends and family gathered in the French Quarter of New Orleans to celebrate and bless the love they share.

One of things I became very aware of over the weekend was the palpable and constant waves of happiness.

As people we are fundamentally wired to want to help others. It is an experience that has the power to open our hearts and raise us up. That is why I find working in the service industry is so gratifying. I find every opportunity to help others in any capacity to be a catalyst to more joy and contentment. I also make it a point to serve selflessly when ever possible.

There is a gap between the good intentions for helping and the physical follow through. These are two very different things that may get confused as the same during the beginning stages of helping another.

With today’s busy lifestyles and constant communication stimulus, it is easy for our words to lose meaning and our promises to lie empty. The cause of this is partially the fact that we are multi-tasking and not grounded. i.e. Noticing a text while driving and forgetting that it ever happened and never responding because driving safely is much more of a priority. We are not being present with our communications.

My deepest knowing is this:  There is MORE than enough love in the world for everyone, especially YOU!

Regardless of your age, weight, circumstances, history or location, I know that if you have the desire for heart opening, mind-blowing, soul-stirring love, then it is meant to be yours.

Family has always been the most important part of my life. It’s what brings me joy. It’s what gives me strength. It’s what gives me purpose. And, yes, it’s what gives me an identity.

As one cultivates more and more of the levels of the strudel, then one sees the whole level of interpersonal relationships as just one level. When I first started to awaken, I would come home to visit my family and my father would say to me, “Do you have a job?” He didn’t ask me if I was the Buddha, or if I was enlightened, and I would get very angry at him because he had caught me in a place where he made the plane real, and I said, “I cannot stay around my family, they bring me down.” Later when I would come home more strong in my faith and inner connections, my father would ask me the same questions, and I would, in the quietness of my being, appreciate his concern and the worldview that he held without becoming reactive, and so my response would not be reactive, and it responded instead to the deeper connection that we had, and it would open the dialogue in a new way.

It is up to the most conscious person in the situation to break the chain of reactivity.

Seventeen years ago, Rebekah Eden had finally had enough of romantic relationships. She was sick and tired of disappointment, heartache and betrayal, not to mention the sense that she was constantly losing herself and her larger mission along the way.

I just left the Astana (Kazakhstan) Economic Forum. I had the opportunity to continue the discussions begun in St Petersburg at the conference there that included Russian President Vladimir Putin and UN Secretary General António Guterres on the need to end old, exploitative, unsustainable systems and replace them with ones that are just beginning to evolve.

Maybe it’s just me, but when someone does something mean or upsetting (to me or anyone I know and love), I find getting to real forgiveness is super hard.

I tend to be a hard liner, and say that your reactions are your mind’s predicament.

That’s a hard line, but for you to be in a relationship where you say, “I can only be happy if you’re different,” seems to be doing an interesting thing. It’s probably perpetuating your suffering and everybody else’s suffering in life.

I just love the healing power of homeopathy.

Based on the theory that “like attracts like,” a homeopathic remedy is an itty, bitty healing dose that generally brings big relief.