Love. It’s that four-letter word that makes our world go ‘round.
Artists sing about love. Writers write about love. Painters paint about love. Protestors take to the streets carrying placards that plead for more love. And, every once in a while, a political leader stands up and speaks about the importance of leading from a place of love. (I wish this happened more often than it does.)
I believe in love big time. I also believe that we can all get better at loving ourselves and loving each other.
Love is easy and love is hard. Even if you’ve been burned by it, you still want to put your heart back in the fire. It’s just that good. It’s just that necessary. It’s just that vital to your health.
Because love is such a big topic, I talk to my kids about it a lot. I talk about what I’ve come to learn love is, and what it isn’t. The truth is, I don’t think we talk enough about the reality of everyday love. So often it presents itself to us in small moments, but we’re too busy to stop and notice that it’s there, much less give gratitude for it.
Real love soothes. It makes you feel safe and secure. It’s not about finding someone to complete you. It’s about finding someone to complement you. It’s about finding people in your life who will accept you, listen to you, understand you, and love you unconditionally.
Finding someone who loves you is the ultimate brass ring in life. Finding friends and companions who love you is super important, too. I believe that we should all look to fill ourselves up with love. Find people who you love. Find work that you love. Find a purpose that you love. Find things that bring out the love in you.
I wanted to write about love this week because, like many of you, I think it’s what we all need more of right now. Our country needs more love, for sure. Our neighbors need more love. And, if we are really honest with ourselves, I think we would all admit that we need more of it, too. I know I do.
So this week, think about how you can get better at love. Yes, I’m talking to you. Think about how you can be more loving, even to those who you find it hard to love. There will always be people who have wronged you, or who you have wronged yourself. There will always be people who we disagree with or who have pushed our buttons. But, I think our lives (and our peace of mind) will be better off if we find it within us to love these people, too.
I believe that we are all capable of leading from a place of love. It doesn’t require an Ivy League education, a big bank account, or anything materialistic from you at all. You can be a leader of love just by the way you act, the way you talk, the way you behave, and the way you interact with your fellow human beings.
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