I tend to be a hard liner, and say that your reactions are your mind’s predicament.
That’s a hard line, but for you to be in a relationship where you say, “I can only be happy if you’re different,” seems to be doing an interesting thing. It’s probably perpetuating your suffering and everybody else’s suffering in life.
I have resisted “what is” all of my life thinking what I had experienced was bad or “ugly”. This only created shame, doubt, guilt and pain. Until one day I woke up and realized everything I had been resisting was a message or my guidance. One would never think guidance would come in this form. I was keeping self love at a distance wishing it would go away.
Most of my life I was Angry and Arrogant.
It did not make me happy. I saw attacks everywhere. If you told me the Universe had my back, I would respond in one of two ways. One was, “Of course!” (How could it be otherwise for Me?). Or the other, “I had to fight tooth and claw for everything in my life” against prevailing forces.
I went to San Francisco. And yes, I wore flowers in my hair. I was one of those young beaded, bell-bottomed kids who moved to California in the late 1960s, drawn by the irresistible call for “Love, Peace, and Flower Power.” 2017 marks the fiftieth anniversary of the famous San Francisco “Summer of Love.” Hard to believe that that much time has passed. In some ways, I still feel the same inside as I did when I left the Midwest for California, suitcase packed with utopian dreams. I still have those dreams. And I’m still a flower child at heart.
Imagine a community that includes everyone. This is impossible from the perspective that is limited to what we can see, hear, touch, smell, and taste. From this perspective power is ability to manipulate and control, and everyone seeks it. Survival requires it, and human evolution requires survival.
Poet Mark Nepo uses the phrase “exquisite risk” to describe our willingness to be fully alive, open, available, living true to our heart. This talk explores the challenges and blessings of taking the exquisite risk, both in becoming more intimate with our inner life, and in engaging with others from full authenticity.
Today I felt like laughing, so I searched for some funny love jokes, I hope they make you laugh (or at least smile!)
~A lady goes to the doctor and complains that her husband is losing interest in sex. The doctor gives her a pill, but warns her that it’s still experimental. He tells her to slip it into his mashed potatoes at dinner, so that night, she does just that. About a week later, she’s back at the doctor, where she says, “Doc, the pill worked great! I put it in the potatoes like you said! It wasn’t five minutes later that he jumped up, raked all the food and dishes onto the floor, grabbed me, ripped all my clothes off, and ravaged me right there on the table!” The doctor says, “I’m sorry, we didn’t realize the pill was that strong! The foundation will be glad to pay for any damages.” “Nah,” she says, “that’s okay. We’re never going back to that restaurant anyway.”
You’ve heard the cliché, “success leaves a trail of breadcrumbs,” and having met and interviewed tons of smart, super-successful women who went from alone and dateless to happily married to their conscious soulmate, I have compiled a list (in no particular order) of the qualities they brought forward in themselves to make it happen.
It can be so hard when you see someone you love and care for stuck in patterns that aren’t working or are not healthy.
From the outside, it’s easy to clearly see what they are doing wrong or need to change. It can be even more frustrating if they are someone you are very close to, like a family member.
Yep. That’s a message many of us are giving ourselves every day.
We have a negative voice in our head that is constantly judging, criticizing, shaming and blaming and “shoulding” on us.
I stopped fighting with this voice a long time ago.
Now when she speaks, I laugh at her and say: “Yes, you are right. I am a total mess. A complete f$#k up. and you know, what? I love myself anyway.”
My friend, the late, great Wayne Dyer always said: “Don’t believe every thought that you have.”
He is 100% right.
Life is so delicate and none of us know when we are going to die, yet it’s the only guarantee from the moment we are born.
Every breath is a precious gift.
Last week I was on my speaking tour in Guatemala and had the privilege of visiting a special home for kids with terminal cancer that my client started. These kids are all under 18 years old and have about 6 months or less to live. They come there to be loved, supported, and taken care of in their last days.