Setting Spiritual Boundaries: Learning To Flow Like Water With Your Second Energy!

This year, we’re being called to take a more active role in the Collective — to break down what separates us and move forward to a new reality, one that is more loving, equitable, and just for all. 

One point of confusion is the idea of being part of the larger whole of humanity, at the same time we respect and maintain our individual identities. That gives rise to questions like:

• How do I break down walls of separation while maintaining boundaries?
• How do I love others and still take care of myself? 
• How do I set or maintain healthy boundaries while deepening connection with others?

There are many misunderstandings around the topic of boundaries, particularly spiritual boundaries. 

There’s a tendency to think of it as an either/or or all or nothing proposition. Either we love someone else and give them what they want, or we are heartless and will end up alone. Either we sacrifice all for the collective good, or we maintain our separateness and isolation.

The truth is, there is a Divine dance between the individual and the collective, between “me” and “we.” Both can exist at once… and, in fact, you are an essential part of the whole! 

That means when you care for yourself, from a heart-centered, healthy place, you are also caring for the whole of humanity. What you do for one, you do for all — even (and especially!) when the “one” is yourself. 

A lot of what we work with in our second energy center is around the topic of healthy boundaries and intimacy. We walk the sacred line between disconnection and overidentifying with another. Here are some ways to set healthy boundaries with others, and with yourself! 

Empaths As Boundary-Setters

Do you sense you actually feel too much on behalf of others? 

A friend tells you about the abusive relationship they’re enmeshed in, and you feel the terror, anxiety, and dread as clearly and heavily as if it were you in the relationship. A dose of the nightly news is enough to send you to bed with a cold compress and a box of chocolates. You enter an online discussion forum, and you are immediately overwhelmed by the energy you’re sensing, even through the screen of your computer.