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The Language We All Speak

lovelanguage The Language We All Speak

“There's nothing you can do that can't be done. Nothing you can sing that can't be sung ... All you need is love, love. All you need is love.”  -The Beatles

I've Been Thinking...

At the beginning of the week, I thought I knew exactly what I wanted to write about this morning. I had been thinking a lot about how unscripted the world feels, and how it sort of mirrors my own life’s trajectory.

What I mean is that I feel like I’m basically making things up as I go these days. And where I’m going is shorter than where I came from. That feeling can either be very anxiety-inducing or freeing, depending on the day.

But then, a few things happened that made me want to write about love instead. I wasn’t called to the topic just because I had finished binge-watching “Modern Love” on Amazon (a TV show based on the NY Times column, both which I recommend). No, I was called to write about love because, in a deeply profound way, I think it’s our common denominator. It’s our common desire. It’s the feeling that we all want more of, and that we (and our world) desperately need right now.

 That's part of the reason why I reached out to Dr. Gary Chapman, author of the wildly popular book The Five Love Languages, and asked him to write about the language of love. I asked him to write about what love is, what it isn’t, and how we can speak in a language of love this holiday season.

Once I focused my attention on love this week, I started seeing it everywhere. First, I saw a picture that Sen. Kamala Harris’ husband, Doug, posted after she dropped out of the presidential race. He’s holding her in the photo, and the caption says, “I’ve got you. As always.”

I stared at it for the longest time. I was so moved by its simplicity and power. I tried to recall another example of a man doing something so publicly for a woman running for the most powerful job in the world. I also tried to recall a woman doing it for a man in the same spot. I couldn’t come up with anything.


I’m so glad my daughters can see this. I’m so glad my sons can see it, too. I’m so glad we can all see it. I want to see more expressions of love like this one.

Why? Because what our unscripted, chaotic world needs is more people stepping up and saying, “I’ve got you. As always.” It’s so simple. It’s so strong. It’s so needed.

I want a political leader who gives me the sense that “they’ve got this” and that they’ve got me. I want the sense that they know where we are going, and also that we are going there together. I not only want that kind of leader, but I think I deserve it. I think you do, too.

I was also moved this week when Sen. Elizabeth Warren shared an emotional story with a teenage girl in Iowa who asked if there had ever been a time when someone she looked up to didn’t accept her. Sen. Warren shared a poignant story about the time she told her mother that her first marriage was ending.

"My mother and I had very different views of how to build a future. She wanted me to marry well, and I really tried, and it just didn't work out," Warren said. “And there came a day when I had to call her and say, 'This is over. I can't make it work.' And I heard the disappointment in her voice. I knew how she felt about it. But I also knew it was the right thing to do and sometimes you just gotta do what's right inside and hope that maybe the rest of the world will come around to it. And maybe they will, maybe they won't, but you gotta take care of yourself first."

She ended by giving the teen girl a hug. It was a genuine moment of love and strength—one in which I got the feeling that Sen. Warren also had this young woman’s back.

I share these examples because we’re often inundated with the opposite kind of story. We are inundated with stories of polarization and division. We watch what feels like a reality show unfolding in real time, as people lie, yell, scream and bully. We watch as our president posts a picture of his head on a movie star’s body, and people just laugh and move along.

None of this is going to bring us together. Our only hope lies in the language and the promise of love.

Love is universal. It’s primal. It’s human. It’s what shifts individual worlds and larger world orders. I believe it is our best hope for something better. It’s our best hope if we want to love one another, love our country, and love ourselves.

I’ve been around long enough to know that we should all be doing the things we love, and that we should be doing them with the people we love. And, we should be doing them right now. Nothing else even comes close.

Each of us is born into someone's arms, and, if we are lucky, we’ll die in someone’s arms. Everything in between is a search for our common humanity. It’s only rooted in love.

There is no right time for anything anymore. There is no right school to attend. There is no right dream job to pursue. There is no right person to marry. There is no right path to live happily ever after.

We’re all worried that everyone is judging us, but the truth is that no one really cares. We live for likes, and yet we cry in loneliness. We are worried about saying anything, and yet so many people say nothing at all. What kind of way is that to live?

As I look ahead to the final weeks of this year, I find myself shaking my head in amazement at where we are as a nation and a world. I also find myself shaking my head at where I am in my own world.

I’ve never felt more vulnerable, and I’ve never felt stronger. I’ve never felt more anxious, and I’ve never felt more serene. I’ve never felt more alone, and I’ve never felt more connected. I’ve never felt more scared about the state of the world, and I’ve never felt more hopeful about what can be.

There is a new year coming. It’s one with no script written yet, other than the one we write for ourselves. I awoke the other morning and wrote this:

Love is coming
Love is coming
It’s going to right our world
It’s going to right your world
It’s going to right the world
Love is coming. Get ready.
Learn its language
Get fluent. Speak it. Practice it.
It’s got you.
Get ready.
As always.


PRAYER OF THE WEEK                       

Dear God, please help me feel your love. Please help me give the people I love what they need, and please help me show the same kind of love to myself. Amen

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