It's easy to forget that we are all perfect in our own design. Sometimes we muck it up with habits and choices that do not serve us. 

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The Secret to Enjoying a Happy and Loving Relationship - It’s not what you think

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When you remember that everyone has conditioned thoughts running their lives (including you) it can relieve unnecessary stress from any relationship.


Everyone’s individual unconscious codes and programs hide the miracles and magnificence of who they really are. 


When someone in your life upsets you… 


Ultimately it’s not about the situation or the circumstances, it’s about the unconscious stories and beliefs around them. 


We’re all constantly being triggered by hidden programs that can have us lashing out and saying and doing things that are not kind, tolerant or loving. This leads to feeling separated from love and going into the low frequency codes of guilt, shame and blame.


A happy and fulfilling relationship occurs when you can see beyond the programs—your own and others’—and start to take radical personal responsibility for the life that you’re creating. 


The truth is, you are the scriptwriter, director, star and producer of your own life. Focusing on your authorship of the movie that is your life is crucial to unlocking the best version of you in all your relationships.


Next time you are triggered, try this


  1. Keep your mouth shut
  2. Ask yourself what program do I have that has reacted this way
  3. Use the 4 Questions to shift codes and change your state

The 4 Questions

  1. What am I feeling?
  2. What am I focused on?
  3. What do I want to feel?
  4. What focus will serve that?

The key to changing your state so you don’t start world war 3 while being triggered, is to figure out what is the ULTIMATE OUTCOME I want from the answer to number 4?



Click here to watch this short video on using the 4 Questions to change your state instantly.


To Your Brilliance, Happiness and Success

Love Always,

Sandra and Daniel Biskind

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